Change is the only constant.
Highs and lows are part of life but very often they are internalised subconsciously and get projected outward by our behavioural traits. They become one of the parameters of how we are perceived in the world. Developing an attitude to grow and evolve is a commitment to the self and to the importance of awareness. In the extremely competitive and complex world that we live in today, our attitudes and behaviours can make or mar our personal growth.
Often, they are witnesses to dwindling self-confidence, self-worth, and self-esteem issues. Realising personal strengths and working with them by cultivating a great attitude is the key to an increase in self-confidence.
Yes, you can do this!
Below are my top 10 tips for a Confidence Boost:
List your strengths:
Make an effort right now and list your strengths. If you can’t see any in yourself, ask your close friends and family to tell you what those strengths are. CREATE THE LIST.
Stop comparing & believe in yourself:
Realise that you are different and that is often your best attribute. Comparing oneself to another is traveling on a hopeless road to destruction. Latch on to your best self and believe in your authentic nature. Notice, nurture and know your good points. You are not in competition with anyone but yourself.
Learn to say no:
There is no room for emotional blackmail and self-sabotaging behaviour by agreeing to everything and everyone in order to help them stay in their happy space. Your life matters too and your happiness counts. Always remember that you are important to you.
Approve of yourself and stop self-criticism:
Take steps to care for your well-being. Indulge in some free time just for yourself and choose the way you wish to spend it. Being assertive about your needs gives you an air of certainty. Self-empowerment is the key. Take care of your body, mind, and spirit. Trust yourself more. Choose to celebrate your accomplishments but keep that head of yours firmly on your shoulder, walk knowing you are touching the ground. Be balanced and learn to be assertive whenever needed. You will be empowered with confidence and you will soon be projecting it.
Adopt positive body language:
Work on your posture and deportment. Accept yourself with your shortcomings and remember no one is perfect. Decide to avoid negative self-talk and choose to self-motivate yourself every day! Spend time with positive-minded people. Avoid sentimental bullies. Do not contemplate in solitude. Reflect and spread positivity.
Spirit of enthusiasm (Reflect and Spread positivity)
Speak with enthusiasm. Being enthusiastic in your dealings endows you with a sense of assurance which helps to ward off self-doubts.
Be a lifelong learner:
Being open to learning from life allows for knowledge to come one’s way. Many valuable insights are readily available and can be easily discovered.
Personal skill development:
Work to improve your areas of competencies. Keep working to improve where you sense a need for betterment. And remember, self-confidence is a lot like evolution; it is a work in progress.
Practising self-awareness and self-reflection through mindfulness makes way for greater understanding, helping you see through the layers of conditioning. Work at eliminating negativity in thoughts, words, and deeds.
Honour life and living:
Cultivate gratitude for this moment and value life in and around you in by expressing heartfelt appreciation. One of the most important tools to empower the self with confidence is about being able to respect this “now” you have and thus learn to harness its immense potential.
A really simple way to do this is to live every moment as best as you can.
Because you can!