Motherhood is a journey unlike any other. In my experience, some days are a breeze and everything goes smoothly. Other days, not so much, and running full speed into a wall sounds like a sane course of action. No matter what kind of day it is, I can always say that I wear my motherhood cape proudly and can honestly say it’s the most fulfilling role that I’ve ever had. As parents, we experience many highs and lows and we never know what kind of day it’ll be when we awake in the morning. One thing is for sure though, and that is I wouldn’t trade this life for anything. (Remind me of this on one of my bad days)
Being a mom has taught me so many lessons and I’m pretty sure I learn more from my kids than they learn from me. Don’t get me wrong, I work hard at preparing my little ones for the big world ahead by instilling values, morals, respect and love, but at the end of the day, I am the one overthinking about the day’s events, not them. Throughout life, we’re always told to live in the moment and for the most part, kids truly do. That is amazing to me because this is something that I have to mindfully do as a practice, yet it’s done without a thought by them. My children are constantly showing me the multitude of ways that they are wiser than I sometimes realize.
I’ve listed below 5 lessons that I’ve learned from my kids that stand out to me the most:
Of course, this is #1 on the list as most people know there’s no love like a child’s love. Their innocence and ability to love everyone is a beautiful thing to see and always gives me a reminder to come from a place of love too. Loving without conditions can often be difficult for adults because of the people that have hurt us along the way. We keep those memories and bad experiences with us even when we don’t mean to. When it comes to loving my kids, none of that matters. They have my full attention, devotion, time, and love. Yes, even on the days I want to bang my head against the wall.
Family is everything
The bond that my daughters share is unlike anything I’ve ever seen. They are totally content in each other’s company and could care less about having friends over. Having friends and people to connect with outside of your household is important, but I’ve learned from my children that there’s no company I’d rather keep than with those I call my family. They are the people I’m most comfortable being around and my idea of a good time. I’m content watching movies and eating popcorn with my kids and husband on a Friday night. This does not mean that we all shouldn’t have time away from our kids now and then because I’ve learned that is a necessary requirement for sanity.
Don’t take life so seriously
Kids are so carefree and have a knack for finding the positive in a negative situation. Their imaginations truly have no limits. As we get older, this becomes more and more difficult, to the point where life can become a drag because we are putting too much emphasis on the negative. Let’s face it, adulting is a pain in the ass most of the time, but that doesn’t mean that we have to be negative about it. Since work and bills aren’t going anywhere anytime soon (if you wish to maintain some sort of quality of life that is) so we might as well stop bitchin’ about ‘em. Instead, we can shift our energy on the blessings of having jobs and bills to pay to begin with because some people don’t.
Every moment is temporary – good and bad
This is a lesson that I continue to learn regularly. I’ve gotten into the habit of repeating the mantra, “This is temporary, this too shall pass” multiple times per day. Anyone that is a parent knows that raising children can be the biggest test of patience one could ever experience. I like to repeat the above mantra on the “run head-first into the wall moments” when my kids have exhausted the last of my patience. On the flipside, the “every moment is temporary” lesson also applies to the good moments. The moments that I wish would last forever, but again, every moment is temporary and nothing lasts forever. So cherish all of it. The good and the bad.
As a person who spent my childhood in a toxic household, I’m fully aware of the long-term effects that words can have on a child. Being a mom has given me the opportunity to break this pattern, and raise children that do not have to grow up recovering from their childhoods. I’m not perfect by any means, but I try really hard to be mindful of the words that I choose to use. This lesson goes both ways, for myself and my kids, as I’m also teaching them to taste their words before they speak.
As I mentioned in the beginning of this article, motherhood is the most fulfilling role that I’ve ever had the pleasure of experiencing. It’s days like today, on Mother’s Day, where all of it… the good and the bad, the happy and the sad, is worthwhile beyond measure. I wouldn’t trade any of it for the world. Mother’s day blessings to all of the beautiful mommies out there, and to the single Dad’s that are acting as Mom and Dad, I see you too.
Love & Light