How would you define anger?
If you look up the definition online you may find very similar interpretations. The Cambridge Dictionary (*) defines it as:
“A strong feeling that makes you want to hurt someone or be unpleasant because of something unfair or unkind that has happened.”
Most of us would agree with this explanation. Of course, the question isn’t that you don’t know what makes you angry. Instead, the question is, “How do you release anger?”
Here are 5 tips to Help you Release Anger:
Purchase a CRAP BOOK.
Go to the dollar store and purchase a small notebook that fits in your pocket or purse. On the first page of the book write “this is my CRAP book.” This book is for your eyes only. Each time you feel angry over something that has happened in your day, jot it down in your CRAP book. As you write things down you may feel your anger lessen and your mood lighten. Never throw your CRAP book away, otherwise, the crap may follow you, or so I have been told. When it is full simply file it away. This is a technique I learned in a neuro-coaching course. It works beautifully.
Write your anger on to paper at lightning speed.
Let’s say that you don’t like your boss because they give you more work than anyone else. You are angry but you’re worried that if you bring up this issue you’ll be replaced. Take 5 or 10 minutes and write as fast as you can all the things that are causing you anger. Your pen flies over the paper so quickly that your writing is illegible. It doesn’t matter, however, because once you feel that your anger has dissipated you are going to crumble up the paper and throw it in the wastepaper basket. Do this multiple times in a day if you need to. Take a deep breath and savor the fact that you are looking after yourself from the inside out.
In the book The Dynamic Laws of Prosperity (**) by Catherine Ponder, she tells a story of how a former friend was gossiping about a woman vehemently. As soon as the lady under attack realized this was happening, she spent the afternoon sitting quietly and wrote over and over: Divine love is doing its perfect work in this situation now, and all is well. Within a couple of days, the lady received a note of appreciation from the woman who had been gossiping about her.
Visualize an outcome that brings you peace. Meditate on an outcome without anger. The anger is gone. You feel amazing.
Exercise releases endorphins. Go for a walk, skip rope, ride a stationary bicycle or a regular bicycle, do yoga, stretch, go for a swim, stand on your head, or dance to some music. It is impossible for two emotions to fit in the same space! Breathe and realize that you have the power to replace anger with a sentiment that empowers you!
Strengthen your resolve that you can deal with anything that life sends your way, especially anger, by using these simple techniques.
(**) The Dynamic Laws of Prosperity, Forces That Bring Riches To You by Catherine Ponder, Copyright© 2010 Martino Publishing, ISBN 1-57898-875-6, page 142