Declutter and Grow Free Part 1: How to clean up your act in all areas of your life.
“If only I had the time to do everything that I know I should have. I don’t get how some people seem to be able to keep everything together. I mean, with the family, work, my social calendar, there is no way I will ever get some me-time in there. I need a break from my life, that’s for sure. It feels like my brain will explode from having so much to deal with.
The house looks like a mess, never like I want it, and I am always behind on my tasks. The to-do list is longer than there are days in a year, I am sure, and if someone asks me to help them I will freak. I mean, let’s get real, I’ve got to take care of absolutely freaking everything. Like today: The dog needs to be groomed, I need to go shopping for the dinner party tomorrow. Two of the kids needs to be taken to practice, my period is killing me, and I need to go through the paperwork for the meeting in the morning. I feel like my whole life is cluttered just from being me for heaven’s sake! Enough already!”
Once we realize that life has a hold on us, and not the other way around, it will feel like we are literally cluttered from the inside out. The wind of change is whispering in our ear. We see the madness, and we feel its rage. The time has come to stop pretending to be something but our authentic selves. It is time to strip naked that facade that is falling apart day by day.
There is nothing you need to do, have or accomplish, not for all the wrong reasons. What I call clutter, is everything that is standing in your way of your true inner potential. Keeping you on hold from an optimal happy life free of bullshit, obstacles that you are tripping on, and most of all, the general clutter surrounding us, inside out. So much clutter. Everywhere. In our house, office, car, relationships, mind, and emotions.
Something has got to give. Cleaning and organizing to the rescue! You won’t believe how much better life looks when the mess is out of the house.
Everything we draw into our lives, be it a physical thing, a thought or a person, we are storing it, carrying it and being affected by the meaning we have given it. Our old beliefs might tell us that giving something away when we no longer need it, is not a good thing. We might need it later. There might be famine, we might end up in lack, therefore holding on, storing and cluttering our space is natural. It is needed. It is safety. It is our burden to carry. We are owned, by things.
Whenever you are battling between your emotions and your mind, your schedule and your time, you are held hostage by your own clutter.
Let’s look at some signs that you are full of shit, or that your spaces are. Clutter is a sign of congestion, obstruction, and stress. External chaos is a reflection of the internal status. The perfect motivator for action, and a great tool for stepping up to the true freedom.
The key to de-cluttering is to simplify and organize.
How to start releasing the clutter:
Start by acknowledging which part of your life, if not all, needs examining. Start small, and be diligent. A little each day goes a long way. If you are facing a lot of what you perceive as obstacles in a specific area of your life, dive right in. Get your hands dirty, your feet wet, and get ready to pull up some roots. One thing is realizing the mess that has filled up your inner and outer space, another is having the will and the spunk to actually do something about it. You need to activate the release button and let go of the patterns that keep you piling up and holding on. Where in your life do you need to improve? What are you not happy about?
We all do this, by the way, collect unneeded and unwanted crap. We all need a spring cleaning now and then. A detoxification from day to day waste and un-serving habits. Every area of our life has potential to improve by de-cluttering its space, be it physically or mentally.
No one wants to trip over a box or a piece of furniture, and the same goes for unwanted thoughts and debilitating emotions. Our focus and our ability to create is greatly impaired by the unnecessary burdens we carry. It is like driving a car in the pouring rain with no wipers. Like walking in heavy fog, not seeing clearly where you are heading.
Once you realize that a lot of what you have been told, and have been telling yourself, are lies, the clutter will be more visible. It will be easy to stumble upon and get annoyed by. Who wants a mind that keeps reminding you how you can’t do this and that, or an office that looks and feels like chaos? That is not a successful office. It reflects stress and chaos.
How is a relationship going to move forwards, when it is cluttered by old hurts and disagreements, constant nagging and replays of the same old stories? Once you realize you are walking around in a dirty shirt, you will want to clean it or get a new one. Once you get that your business is not moving forward due to lack of structure and organized actions, you will want to learn and do better. Clutter grows where it is welcome and left alone. Like a weed. Invading the space, leaving you feeling helpless, overwhelmed, confused, and unable to focus.
As you wake up to your own power, this will be clear. When it is clear, you are ready to start the process. One step at the time, let’s get rid of some serious shit. Flush it. Let the sunshine in, and say hello to more freedom.
Like no two physical objects can hold the same space at the same time, no thought or emotion can arise simultaneously.
In this four-part series, you will learn how to declutter:
- Your thoughts and emotions
- Your physical bod
- Your home
- Your office
- Your relationships.
Get your pen and paper ready, learn how to declutter, and let the freedom flow towards you.
How to de-clutter your thoughts and emotions:
Everything starts with a thought, so let’s start by making space for some new ones. The mind is the root of all clutter. It has helped you create everything you see and live. It has been you best friend in all crimes, the good the bad and the ugly. Now, let’s put it to work, to de-clutter your whole life. Step by step, freeing you from unwanted and unneeded life-sucking energy and burdens.
First and foremost, you need to monitor your thoughts. What are you thinking? Look around. Everything is a reflection of your inner terrain, both mentally and emotionally. Be mindful of your thoughts. Be observant of how you respond to situations and your own beliefs. You can only hold one thought at the time, so remember that a negative, or un-serving thought is occupying the space of a serving one.
The subconscious mind, constantly bragging away its mostly false beliefs, paired with your mental conscious blabbering, will create a clutter that can drive anybody off balance. Often referred to as the monkey brain, it goes on and one, like a non-stop train. Not leaving room for anything that the ongoing internal dialog. It might feel like a trap, or you might not even be aware that it is occupying your space. Not until you become more mindful, and are able to observe your own thoughts and emotions.
Start by minding your thoughts
Write in the journal. Listen more, and be mindful throughout your day. What is triggering your internal chatter? What are you saying about yourself and your situation? Keep your thoughts under surveillance. Let them know you are watching.
Spend at least 30 minutes every day in stillness. Let the mind settle, and just observe any thought that might arise or drift by. Practice makes all the difference. It takes time to change any old pattern, so give yourself time. Stillness is making room for grandness, the gems that you want to fill your life with. With too much clutter, the door to the divine wisdom is closed.
Think uplifting and empowering thoughts
The same way thoughts cannot enter the same space at the same time, choose to think more positive, serving thoughts. It might feel awkward at first, but it will change your life like nothing else. You are the thinker, and you absolutely hold the power to choose your thoughts. Use that power wisely and start affirming new and better thoughts consciously every single day. Once you observe a negative or un-serving thought sneak in, delete it and replace it with one that is. Write down positive affirmations everywhere. On your computer, on your phone, in your journal, and on your bathroom mirror. Constantly be on the lookout for that weed, for that clutter.
Be the observer
By that I mean; step back and look at your inner and outer life from a perspective. Try to be more objective and less subjective. Observe from afar, without involving your feelings and emotions. Detach from the outcome of your desires. Let go of the need to know, and the need to control. Being an observer simply means that you are stepping back from the situation, without turning your back on it. It is so easy to get lost in the emotional and mental clutter, it can be hard to see the underlying patterns. Internal clutter is hard to see when it is embracing us with its false truths. Step back and think less.
A game changer in any situation is gratitude. The gate opener for love and peace. A feeling that will dissolve any negativity, and bring calm and ease to our whole lives. So simple, yet forgotten and overlooked by most of us. Stress and gratitude are as different as hate and love. They cannot exist at the same time. Inviting in the grace of appreciation and gratification is a great tool and key to lifting your life to that new level of awareness. Although not of the mind, and not a thought, gratefulness starts with the willingness and the mental conditioning of appreciation. Practice it every day, though meditation and your chosen focus. Be grateful for everything in your life, also the ability to do better. Be grateful for your own free will, and your new path to freedom and a clutter-free, true life.
Do something kind for someone
Anything. This energy opens your ability to let go of any self-pity and victim pattern. It has a ripple effect beyond belief. The best way to wipe out any dusty and negative pattern is to use a force or something better. Something of a higher vibration. Where there is light, there can be no darkness. Always speak with a kind tongue; “Is it kind, is it true, is it necessary?” Pride yourself in your words. They reflect your inner terrain, and therefore your own outer life. Speak uplifting words, help someone carry a heavy load, and assist a stranger. Donate your time or your smile. It does not matter. True kindness comes from the heart, and it will nourish your ability to open up and change.
Let go of the control
Yeah right! I know, this might sound crazy to anyone who is running a business, trying to keep everything together. It is everything but crazy. It is one of the greatest secrets to growing and evolving. Not to be confused with being the authority or the goal-getter. I am not talking about not working systematically and diligently towards what you want. When talking about de-cluttering our minds and lives, letting go of the control means not clinging to an outcome. It means resting in faith and knowledge that everything will turn out in the best possible way, so long as you keep doing your part. Your best, always.
Be creative, laugh and dance
Being physically open and playful has a great bearing on our mental state. Open up some space for easy going and flowing energy. Don’t take everything so seriously. Life is short, and every day has an opening for some fun.
Make sure you watch for part two, on how to declutter your physical body, and why it is important for your life and success.
Sometimes we just need more Zen and less chaos in our lives. Less mind and more stillness. – Hilde Larsen