In part 2 of this 5-part blog series by Trilby Johnson, she shares about taking a deeper look at the face of fear and how it translates to the body. Late joining this series? Catch up on Part 1!
FEARLESSLY ALONE Part 2: The Face of Fear – by Trilby Johnson
“What is your greatest fear? What keeps you lying awake in the early hours of the night and haunts you incessantly? Have you buried it so deep that you rarely get a glimpse of it before squashing it back down ruthlessly? Perhaps what frightens you, even more, is what lies at the bottom of that fear.
You feel that if you admit it, you risk being completely consumed by it and you would cease to exist. It’s the monster under the bed! Yet as with any monster, until you have the courage to take a look at what is really there, you will continue to be a slave to your fear. How is that working for you?
Ultimately, there is only one place fear can truly be addressed and transformed: within you. Running away from fear is a temporary solution. What you do not confront will control you. Once you face the fear, it loses its hold and returns to the great energy pool.
It is often said that the best place to hide the truth is in plain sight. It also helps to bury it underneath a lot of fear. Many people cannot believe that what is true can be so simple. They buy into the distraction of drama and sensationalism that comes with fear, simply because it feels so intense. Heck, some people only feel alive when they are experiencing fear! This is an interesting way to choose how to live. Long-term, however, this is not sustainable.
The human body begins to show signs of wear and tear over time. Emotional overload tends to manifest in physical diseases like burnout, depression, heart problems, weight issues, and much more.
It was General George Patton who said, ‘Fear kills more people than death.’. If you are ready to turn the tables on this, then for a start, it’s time to take a look at the monster under the bed. Let’s see if there really is a monster there. And if there is, let’s deal with it and set ourselves free!” *
In this first chapter of the book, we take a closer and more in-depth look at what ‘the face of fear’ actually is and how this translates in the body, brain, and emotions. The reason being is that the devil is in the detail. I know, right!
To be fearless, doesn’t mean we never will feel fear – that would be a disservice to our evolutionary process and detract from our human aspects. When we give a face to our fear(s) however, it’s an acknowledgment of a specific emotion, affords understanding, and being able to distinguish and manage different types of fear, which are explored and explained further in the chapter. Not all fears are created equal, and each fear requires careful and loving handling, in order to get to what is underneath the fear.
Highly sensitive people, or empaths, often struggle when it comes to managing their fears consciously and in a healthy way, for the simple reason that they have not yet learned how to unplug from the collective morphic field of fear. A morphic field is an energy field that is created and added to by resonance, that is, vibrational frequency alignment or law of attraction. I know that before I learned to manage my own energy, I struggled with anxiety and overwhelm and mood swings.
Admittedly, we are not taught how to manage our fears. In fact, much of the time, fear is used as a misguided way of ‘motivating’ us, which can cause great confusion and a sense of disempowerment. When we get to know the face of fear, we learn to discern between the fears that are our’s or not, which immediately reduces the level of fear. Remember, we can only change what we have taken on ourselves and choose to change the beliefs and behaviours.
Whenever someone is feeling stuck or blocked in their lives – whether due to abuse, addiction, loneliness, finances problems, health issues – there is usually one or many deep fears at play – and not in an empowering way. Believe it or not, fear can become an ally and a friend. Just as with any solid friendship, though, there has to be clear solid direct communication which means meeting face to face and getting to know each other.
When there is a fear, there is an underlying reason for it. Stop, take a breath and dive right in. That’s how you unplug from the morphic field and become fear-less and proactive rather than reactive. Start where you are and work it until it works for you!
* ©Trilby Johnson 2016 excerpt from FEARLESSLY ALONE
p.s. A great way to learn to manage fear is by using calibrated questions. I invite you to watch the webinar ‘Make Questions Your Super-Power for Effective Conscious Living.’
– Trilby Johnson