If I had a dime for the number of times I’ve heard the line “it’s not what you think,” while watching a show or movie and someone walks in on an unsuspecting couple… Well, I don’t know that I’d be rich but I’d sure have a lot of dimes! When it comes to reaching your potential, it’s not just what you think, but what you think about what you think.
We can be forced to do a lot of things, but no person can force us to do is think a thought that we don’t want to think. Yet sometimes, we DO think thoughts we don’t want to think. Everyone does. Why? Because you are human. That’s it! It’s NOT because there is something wrong with you. It’s not that you don’t prefer positive thoughts. Our brains are almost constantly chatting away with thoughts about this and that. Unfortunately, most often our brains are critical, finding fault, imagining the worst (worrying), and being negative in some way. It’s normal! Some thoughts we initiate and others our brains deliver up for us in the moment. Still, our thoughts are ours. It’s what we choose to do with those thoughts.
That is the MOST IMPORTANT thing.
So thinking is the starting point to everything. When you consider your results in life, at the root of it was a thought that you or someone conceived. Then, it is your reaction or response to that thought followed by the action you do or do not take that affects your results. Change is not necessarily brought about by changing how you think but rather whether you connect with a thought or disconnect from it. When you have a thought about yourself—whether positive or negative—do you connect with that thought in such a way that it defines who you are and how you behave? This is “connecting” with your thought(s).
Learning to “disconnect” from your thoughts is a powerful way to effect changes like greater confidence, self-acceptance, and stretching your potential. The bottom line is simply this—You are NOT your brain! You are not your thoughts either unless you choose to “fuse” with them. Here’s an example: You think to yourself, “I’m terrible at remembering names,” You might even say, “but that’s true!” I don’t care whether you perceive it to be “true” or not. My question to you is, “Is this thought helpful to you in remembering names?” No! It’s not. So you disconnect yourself from that thought until such time through practice and techniques you become much improved in remembering people’s names. Connecting with or disconnecting from your thoughts is the key. Think about what thoughts you are connecting with that you shouldn’t.
Your mind works with both positive and negative thoughts every day. It’s important to consider -how will you react or choose to respond to your thinking? People who are spiraling out of control mentally in any life situation REACT, while others who maintain their composure RESPOND. Reacting is usually a knee-jerk reaction. Responding is noticing the thought and disconnecting from it while noting whether it’s actually helpful to you in achieving what you want in life.
Will you react by connecting with your thoughts or will you respond by disconnecting from your thoughts?
How does one disconnecting from their thoughts? There are numerous techniques that I teach my clients in my confidence training called Confidence That Sticks. My personal favorite technique is saying a particular negative thought out loud in my best Yoda voice. That’s right! Yoda from Star Wars, haha! I can do an excellent Yoda impression, but that aside, it helps me to draw a line of distinction between ME and my thoughts. It also adds an air of humor that I enjoy. I choose to believe that I am separate from my thoughts, and I connect if I choose to those that I deem helpful to reaching my goals. While letting others just come and go like a bird flying by. I don’t give unhelpful thoughts power by resisting or fighting them. Whatever technique you use, it’s important to disconnect yourself from your thoughts because your brain is going to constantly throw them at you. Many will be negative. That’s just the way it is.
Remember that you can learn to pay attention to your thoughts and change what you choose to think and even more importantly how you respond to your thoughts. Improve any and all results in your life by taking this all-important, it-factor, action step, and that is to change the way that you respond to your thoughts. Will you fuse or connect with a thought? Or will you diffuse or disconnect from a thought you have about yourself?
So, how will YOU respond to what your thoughts?