The Weekly Hour That Made Me More Confident and Effective at Life
When might you consider some sort of personal therapy to help with your feelings and behaviors in life?
For some, the answer comes early in life because of behavioral problems at home or in school. These fortunate people know the reality behind the mystique of therapy, and for them, it is no big deal. Usually.
For others, the idea of seeing a therapist is far down the list of things to seek out. Therapy can be intimidating, sometimes even scary. The idea of sharing what could be very closely held thoughts doesn’t sit well with many.
But far from Hollywood’s version of therapy sessions, these sessions are often drab, boring affairs. But it really works because it’s on you, not the therapist to make what you want to happen. Effective therapy will help you deal with everyday life, particularly if your thinking and behaviors end up putting obstacles to achieving your goals or your happiness.
Moments of crystal clarity, epic visions and breakthroughs, and significant progress are far and few between in the therapist’s office. More often, a therapy session recounts the events since the last session and puts them in perspective of working towards a goal.
What to Expect from Personal Therapy:
Therapy, like most things in life, can be viewed as something with a beginning, middle, and end. In the beginning, you and your therapist meet and discuss what issues you feel you need help with. Whether this is a chronic condition such as depression, ADD, or personal relationship issues, the therapist and you set up a solution framework for you to work in to manage your issue.
You should also take some time to establish goals in the beginning. Without knowing where you are trying to go you will be wasting time, energy, and money. This beginning is also an opportunity to be sure you and your therapist are a good fit. Not all therapists should treat all people.
There are social, personal, and medical reasons that therapists should tell you where they feel they are not a good fit for you. Likewise, you should feel just as comfortable parting ways with a therapist that you just don’t click with. The therapeutic relationship is a bond of trust. If you don’t have this, you will go nowhere fast.
With goals established, and the framework developed, the therapist and you work together to discuss issues, possible reasons, possible solutions, and techniques for implementing the solutions. Modern therapy often revolves around the way you think, how the way you think creates feelings, how those feelings drive behaviors, and how those behaviors reinforce the way you think.
Understanding this triad is the most powerful tool available for any mood, emotional, or personal problem. Usually, a form of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is the technique of choice for therapy. Supporting this technique, the idea of therapeutic conversation is the tool that makes the whole thing go.
Therapists are trained to actively listen to you, help you see problem areas in your thought process, educate you about how to understand your thinking and give you the tools you can use every day to do the work your sessions layout. With the frequency of an hour a week for active sessions, you can see that most of the therapy’s efforts fall on you the rest of the week. The therapist can help you along the path, but it is you that has to walk it.
The end phases of therapy vary for each individual. Usually what happens is the frequency of sessions goes from very frequent in the beginning, to intermittently frequent in the middle, and very infrequent in the end. There is no real set schedule of events to follow, and if you are using insurance, they may limit you to a certain number of sessions.
Hopefully, the end of therapy is not subject to bureaucracy and can evolve from natural progress. But in almost all cases, therapy is designed to conclude at some point in time.
The Rewards of Personal Therapy:
Therapy is an opportunity to evolve your thinking and your life to the highest potential. Growth, improved relationships, and success often follow therapeutic treatments.
Taken seriously, and with the right attitude, the rewards of personal therapy greatly overcome any perceived shortcomings of seeking out therapeutic help.