Are you aware that there is a voice inside your head that is bombarding you with positive and negative thoughts? Neurologically, the left side of your pre-frontal cortex infuses you with optimistic thoughts, while the right prefrontal cortex infuses you with negative ones. They each have a role to play. It is when the negative right prefrontal cortex overpowers the optimistic side that there is a problem.
What you say to yourself on a daily basis affects your life and what you believe in.
Here is an excerpt from “Nine Ways to Empower Tweens with Emma and Elliot,” Chapter 8 – Self Talk Matters to help illustrate this point.
* “Today, let’s have you conduct an experiment. Listen to what your family and friends say to each other. Do not tell them that you are conducting an experiment. Listen first, and count how many times you hear negative talk. Some examples of negative talk are:
- I have a black cloud that follows me everywhere.
- I never get a parking spot.
- I am always taken for granted.
- I am so clumsy!
- I am too shy.
- I never know what to say.
- Things are just not working out right for me.
- Nobody likes me.
- I am just no good at math.
- I get a cold this time every year.
No wonder things go wrong. These people end up becoming the result of what they say to themselves.
“The step that directly controls your success or failure is what you tell yourself. Say you are failing French in school. You have already gone to the teacher for help. You are putting in the effort and studying. Be aware of what you are telling yourself. If you are saying, “No matter how hard I study, I just cannot get good grades in French,” then you are absolutely correct. Your subconscious mind will find a way to help you fail! Realize that you are in control of your thoughts.” *
Next time a negative thought tries to overpower you, simply say, “Next!” Observe it non-judgmentally and allow it to float away. Be aware of what you are constantly saying out loud and inside your mind. If you are not happy with the results you are getting then change your self-talk. Better yet, seek out family, friends, neighbors and colleagues who speak optimistically, and avoid those people who drag you down with their pessimistic self-talk. Be empowered to live happily.
(* Nine Ways to Empower Tweens with Emma and Elliot, by Kathleen Boucher, Copyright©2016 Kathleen Boucher, Balboa Press Publishers, ISBN: 978-1-5043-5737-1 (sc). Page 81-83)