Why do bad things keep happening to me?
Hmm… Interesting question. Let’s look at it a bit closer.
Have you ever heard of the phrase, “Your point of view creates your reality?” What if that is a point of view you have?
If that is the case, you may wonder, “How do I change this point of view?” Let’s again look at the question. Would you be distraught if the question were, “Why do good things keep happening to me?” Probably not. So the key here is the word ‘bad.’
In order to use either good or bad, you are using judgment, and as a result of it, came to a conclusion. Neither one of them is helpful. Now I ask, are willing to let go of both the judgment and the conclusion?
We are so entrained to look for wrongness. Therefore, I propose another question. Think about the situation and ask yourself, “What is right about this I am not getting?” Your instinct is to look for the answer. Can you forget about the answer for a moment and just be present with the energy that the above question brings up in you?
Since the question comes from such a different direction, there is probably a moment of surprise. What comes up next? My guess is that it is one of two possibilities. Either there was a sense of relief or you got angry at the suggested question. Neither one of them is wrong and you are not wrong for experiencing them. Neither one of them is better than the other. I do hope you can hear this.
First, if there is a relief, somewhere you knew that you had a judgment. The invitation to look from the other direction, to make an 180-degree turn, gave you an awareness even if you do not have words for it right away. Keep asking the question, “What is right about this, I am not getting?” I know from personal experience that there will be a moment when you will suddenly know exactly what is right about it. This will allow you to let go of your point of view that bad things keep happening to you. This, in turn, will change what you experience.
If some form of anger came up, I would ask you a different question, especially since in the initial statement the word ‘keep’ was used. This indicates repetition. In that case, I ask you: What do you love about having bad things happen to you? In what way does that serve you?
I ask you, “Would anything ever ‘happen’ to an infinite being?”
You know that you are an infinite being, don’t you? As an infinite being, you are a creator. So what led you to create the situation(s)? What did you know you could change by allowing this? The anger you experienced when I asked the initial question about what is right here, could very well be a sign that you are not acknowledging your own potency of creation.
Another possibility, “What do you love about having bad things happen to you?” Could it be that you are manipulating others? Could it be that you have decided to be a victim? or Could it be …..? There are other questions that might be asked. Since this is a hypothetical situation, I do not have the feedback in form of energy that I am able to follow if it were a real conversation.
Using questions may seem to be pretty heady, yet it has very little to do with cognition and everything with energy. If you are using the questions given to deal with a situation, it’s important for you to be very present with yourself so you able perceive the energy that comes up.
We like stories and tend to create a story about an event, which is our interpretation of it. A good question to get out of the story might be, “What is really going on here?” This allows you to let go of the conclusions you came to as a result of the story you created and lets you be present with what is.
In summary, here are the questions I suggested:
- Your point of view creates your reality?
- What is right about this I am not getting?
- What do I love about ……? In what way does that serve me?
- What is really going on here?