Break-ups are never easy and no matter how prepared we are for them; the whole process is gut-wrenching and causes a variety of uncomfortable feelings.
This is one of the reasons many love songs were created to help us through the difficult times, as we marinate in a sea of emotions and questions. Whether the break up is initiated by the woman or the man at some point both parties feel twinges of remorse and guilt even long after they have moved on.
A good percentage of us are resilient while there are many who heal at their own pace trying to recover, reflect, and ultimately revise their actions so the next relationship does not experience the same fate. If you are having a difficult time getting over a relationship these tips might just help you sail through relationship break-up hell.
Here are 11 Ways to Move On and Get Over Breakups:
- Instead of practicing avoidance experience the pain.
- Learn from the experience and allow it to make you stronger.
- Get rid of reminders so you are not inclined to obsess.
- Do not call your ex or mutual friends.
- Get plenty of rest.
- Nourish your body with healthy foods.
- Surround yourself with positive, comforting people.
- Keep active (i.e.) exercise, meditate, practice yoga, and run.
- Be kind to yourself.
- Practice positive affirmations.
- Immerse yourself into learning something new or helping others.
Initially, the pain of breakups leaves us feeling raw, inadequate, and imperfect.
In the midst of allowing all those feelings to fester, we begin to talk negatively to ourselves at times taking full responsibility for the outcome of the relationship.
Sometimes even the best of relationships end, without plausible reasons. The symptoms of break-ups may be as frivolous as cheating, people falling in and out of love, or outgrowing each other. Or, either party just does not want to be committed at that point of their lives.
Regardless of the signs and symptoms which often manifest, no one is ever ready for a break-up and it actually feels as if you are mourning a loss. In some instances, you are mourning the loss of how you felt when you were with the person and the demise of an association.
Nonetheless, wallowing in self-pity rarely does much, as far as helping you start the next chapter of your life.
Once one gets over the hurdle of not feeling good enough or thinking that you were replaced by someone better, you begin to focus on the new life you will create and the next relationship on the horizon.
But in order to break through the quagmire of break up doom and gloom, you have to sever all ties with your ex-boyfriend or girlfriend. Do not find excuses to be in each other’s lives and get rid of reminders that will have you pining for him or her. Also, delete contact numbers from your mobile devices. This way, you are not inclined to make a buffoon of yourself when tired, over-medicated, or tipsy. In moments of weakness, it is so easy to get back into a situation that is basically going nowhere.
Take the time to improve yourself mind, body, and soul.
Take lessons in subjects you were always interested in. Ignite old friendships which fell by the wayside when you entered coupledom. Get plenty of rest even when you do not feel like it. The wellness gurus are right; sleep does make everything feel better. Proper rest, good nutrition, and hearty laughter can make the discomfort of a broken heart seem insignificant in no time.
Although this may be a period in your life where you might want to push yourself a little more than usual to be all you can be, it is best to take it slow and be gentler and kinder to yourself.
Meditate and reflect. Go deep within yourself and search out what it is you want from a relationship. Perhaps you need to reevaluate the type of people you are drawn to. Unequally yoked individuals only end up causing their respective partner emotional pain and inevitable heartbreak.
What has helped you survive past breakups? Do you have any tips that you’d like to provide? If so, please share your experiences in the comments section below!