Years ago, while working as an art therapist, I saw a poster in an agency lobby that said, “Success comes in cans, not in cannots.”
Yes, success comes in cans and one of the greatest keys to success is confidence.
The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines self-confidence as “confidence in oneself and in one’s powers and abilities.” Self-confidence is different from self-esteem. Self-esteem refers to how much positive regard or self-love you have for yourself. Self-confidence is how you feel about your abilities in a given situation. So how do you develop a strong sense of belief in yourself? If success is built from confidence how do you achieve a strong belief in your abilities?
Confidence is built on accomplishment but at different stages of our lives, situations often arise to erode how we feel about our competence to achieve our goals.
When we are young, it might be an older person who abuses or degrades us, and as we age maybe it’s health problems, a divorce, or loss of a job. Life in itself is a challenge. There will always be things to overcome and weather through. The loss of youth as one enters “the third age” is a major change that sometimes brings havoc with one’s ability to move forward. The knowledge that you are not the things that happen to you is a key to rising above situations that show up to rob you of your strength and belief in your abilities.
Remember, you have a body but you are not your body. You have a profession, but you are not your profession. There are many titles and positions you carry, but in essence, you are not those titles. You are a willful chooser of conscious awareness. To remember this simple fact gifts you the opportunity to rise above and become your own personal superpower. Shared below are some simple exercises to help enhance your personal growth, physical well-being, and confidence, no matter your age.
Here Are 3 Exercises to Increase Confidence at Any Age:
1. Three Compliments:
- Look in the mirror each morning and give yourself three compliments.
- Record the compliments in your journal.
Or you can do the following:
- Look in the mirror each morning and say ‘’I AM HOT!”
2. Self-Esteem Calendar:
- Purchase a blank calendar or print one off from your computer.
- Fill each day with one activity that will help you enjoy life.
- Look at your calendar every day and remember that you should live every day to the fullest and enjoy life without worrying what others think.
3. Ad About Me:
- Design an ad about yourself that show your positive traits.
- Use pictures, words or a combination of the two.
- Use any available collage and/or art supplies. If you have trouble coming up with ideas, think about the qualities you look for in a friend.
- Look at ad designs in magazines to get ideas for format. Just remember the content is about you.
And here are some thoughts to help boost your confidence at any age:
“Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence.” – Helen Keller
“When you have confidence, you can have a lot of fun. And when you have fun, you can do amazing things.” – Joe Namath
“All you need in this life is ignorance and confidence and then success is sure.” – Mark Twain