In times like these when you turn on your computer or watch the news only to see and hear of conflict across the planet on the land, sea and in the air; it’s important to ask the question, “how can I create more harmony, balance, and inner peace?”
The following 3 Guided-Meditations for times like these will create awareness and greater inner peace:
Begin with Your Heart
Your heart provides energy to your entire body-mind system. It takes oxygen from the lungs to the cells of your body. It also takes carbon dioxide from the body’s cells to the lungs to be expelled. Your heart is the pump for the transportation, regulation, and protection of your body through blood flow. Blood carries nutrients, hormones, and waste products throughout the body. Additionally, your blood helps keep inner harmony and balance of your acid-alkaline state and regulates your body temperature. Your heart plays a part in protecting you from bacteria, pathogens and creates blood clots to decrease loss of blood after an injury. In this way, it protects you from outside invaders and functions as part of the immune system answering the questions, “what is me and what is not me?”
Emotionally, your heart plays a part in how you respond to stress. Your heart responds to the Sympathetic and Parasympathetic Nervous System signals by creating fight-or-flight, or calming responses through heart rate, blood pressure, neurotransmitter responses in your brain, muscles, tissues, organs and cellular communication. By creating an internal way of relaxing your responses, you directly influence the overall functioning of your heart and your entire body-mind system. (*)
Create a Balance Between Perpetrator and Victim Within
Within each of us is an ongoing cycle of Perpetrator and Victim. At times, you can feel victimized. You may feel hurt by a situation, a friend, or something someone said. This might lead to feelings of exclusion and hurt. You might feel you have taken on too much responsibility and feel resentful, angry or afraid. In the larger circle, you may have lost your job or be processing loss on the financial, familial, or personal level. This indeed creates stress or a fight-or-flight response which impacts your sleep, your posture, your heart and your body-mind response. Depression and dis-ease can result when left unresolved.
Reacting to situations from the Perpetrator stance can show itself in blow-ups, physical or verbal arguments, exclusion of others, withdrawal and internal conflict. Tension can create both external and internal responses physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. Even destructive self-talk can take its toll over time in your way of seeing the world and in your health. Being a Perpetrator to self this can also include over-spending, addiction, self-destructive habits and to the extreme, suicide.
Creating harmony and balance within is a first step to regulating and transforming your inner landscape to be inclusive of both. The following Guided Meditation is an opportunity to begin the process of healing in the Violence Cycle of Victim and Perpetrator within. (**)
Out beyond ideas of wrong-doing and right-doing, there is a field. I’ll meet you there.
Heal and Harmonize the Inter-Generational Victim-Perpetrator Cycle
The fight-or-flight, or calm response is present in the emotional, mental, physical and spiritual level (core essence); including the generational patterns of your family. This means that through time your ancestors have influenced your beliefs about culture, religion, gender, social status, education, country, and the world. You learn from your parents who were influenced by their parents; and so on. You were born in a particular place on the planet that involved inclusion and exclusion of certain ways of being or seeing the world.
Sometimes I find myself saying in group Resonance Repatterning® sessions, “There has not been a group on the planet that has not perpetrated another or a group that has not been victimized by another.” The door is opening for healing both sides of this conditioning. Tribes and nations have banded together for safety, food, water, and protection for thousands of years. In the same way that the immune system protects your body; the beliefs of groups have protected the bigger body or group of what belongs and what does not seem to belong.
Bert Hellinger’s work with Family Systems details how the action of finding commonality between groups that are seemingly different can bring peace and greater empathy with compassion. For example, when the mother of one group can empathize with the death of a child of a mother from the “other” group, there is a common bond. The bond is found in the place where both groups share the same feeling and compassion within the group of mother and child. At this place, both mothers can see that there has been victimization. And, each group has been a Perpetrator. To come to a place of seeing that both sides have been both victimized and perpetrated is the beginning of finding common ground. (***)
In times like these, where each continent’s influence on the world-at-large is self-evident, the need for finding compassion within each system, personal, family, community and global is imperative for this planet to breathe, regulate and protect the lives of all sentient beings.
The richness and quality of life for everyone depends on the value of knowing that we are one human family and one planet Earth.
Guided Mediation MP3’s:
- (*) http://kimberlyrex.audioacrobat.com/download/PauseforCentering.mp3
- (**) http://kimberlyrex.audioacrobat.com/download/integratingvictimandperpetratorwithin.mp3
- (***) http://kimberlyrex.audioacrobat.com/download/reconcilingvictimandperpetrators.mp3