Winter is always a time for reflection.
Here in the upper Midwest of America, it is strikingly cold and this forces everyone inside, into warm cozy places. People are huddled together in coffee shops, restaurants, their places of business, and homes. The kids might duck outside for a bit, but the bitterness of zero and negative temperatures bites their noses and toes, and sends them running inside to the warmth.
For some, this time of year is a time for rest, relaxation, and reflection. Here in my own home, we have taken to napping, and purposefully “doing nothing.” Whereas I know of others who are trying to contain the “craziness” that is happening in their homes, reflecting on how things “might be” next year.
Last year, you may have felt like and did things in order to survive, with the focus on keeping things together: your children, your household, even yourself! Well, 2018 is going to be an amazing year. 2018 is a year filled with opportunities for enlightenment and manifesting that home atmosphere, those wanted relationships with your children, with your spouse, and with yourself.
Here are 4 ways to make the most of this opportunity and help you become an empowered and enlightened parent in 2018:
Beginning a new year is a great time to reflect. I have a challenge for you. Instead of making lists of what you did “wrong” last year or how you “don’t want to do that again” this year, radically accept what happened last year. Look at yourself as a parent without shame or blame. See your choices as solutions that you tried that either worked or didn’t work so well and are in need of some more fine-tuning.
Try making a drain-me/fill-me list. On the left side of a piece of paper write down all the things that drained you last year as a parent. On the right side of the paper write down all the things that worked, that filled your heart, that made you feel good, and that gave you energy. Keep the stuff on the right side of the list, and if you can, do more of that. Ask for help with items from the left side of your list, and try something new.
Believe in yourself. Look at those items on the right side of your list. Those fill me items are what make you a great parent, and make you uniquely you. Celebrate that. Own that. Be that. There are solutions to the drain me items. Maybe you haven’t figured those out yet, but you can. This is the year to reach out and ask for help, talk with others who are going through the same thing as you, take a class or a course, and try something new.
Keep your thoughts and heart focused on that family atmosphere or the relationship that you envision. Honor the contributions that you make to creating that family atmosphere and creating those relationships with your children and your spouse. Take time each day to give thanks for one thing that makes your family, that unique and wonderful family, created by all of you.
If you are looking for some inspiration and ideas for your drain me list, please contact me at www.encouragementparenting.com or by phone at (872) 216-5860. You can also attend a Wellness Universe Learn It Live session webinar with me, and as always, connect with me on the Wellness Universe.
Have a happy 2018 as an empowered and enlightened parent!