Become Happier Right Now by Releasing the Need to Achieve.
Today you are living in a constant stream of what success is supposed to look like and are constantly being bombarded with questions like what are your greatest achievements, what have you done with your life?
Success is something that is quite different for each person as are his or her achievements. It is meant to be different as we all are with our very own little quirks, skills, and differences. It is what makes the world go round, giving each of us a reason for living.
What happens when you allow these perimeters to engulf your life, you will always feel like:
- You are not good enough.
- You haven’t got enough.
- You haven’t done enough
You will constantly be working to meet other people’s expectations and perception of you. This will lead to unhappiness, depression, and anxiety and even to great sadness, even suicide.
Your life is a lifelong process of learning, changing and growing to become who YOU want to become. Not what someone else expects of you. By releasing the need to constantly achieve will allow you to take a step back to firstly enjoy where you are, be happy with who you are, and with the people who are in your life.
Releasing the need to achieve isn’t about not having accomplished, succeeded at, or achieved anything in your life.
It is about removing the external influences placed on you of what may be unrealistic or not relevant to you. No truly great person ever began with the need to achieve; you’ll often hear them saying things like “I never expected this to happen.” It is about following your desires, your goals, and most of all being happy with you and who you are.
5 Steps for Releasing the Need to Achieve:
Be grateful for each little aspect of your life. It has been a constant reminder to me throughout the years that until you are grateful for whom you are, where you are, and whom you are with, you will not move forward. When you become grateful the flow of life becomes much easier.
Push past your Comfort Zone:
To push past your comfort zone doesn’t mean to do things that bring about harm or discomfort. It is bringing into place a belief in yourself that you are good enough. So if it is learning a new skill, or meeting a new friend or taking on a new task that you know will provide you with a feeling of satisfaction and joy then go ahead.
Replace Negative Thoughts with Positive Ones:
Negative thought processes come into play every day of your life, the thoughts that you aren’t achieving enough or doing enough are just one of many negative thought processes. This is where having a goal or a plan for your day with two to three things that are important for you to do is important. It helps prevent you from getting into the negative thought process that you haven’t achieved enough. At the end of the day when you have completed the two to three priorities you had in place, you will feel happy with yourself, giving you the courage and confidence that you are good enough.
Ensure your reasons for doing things remain in alignment with what you truly value, what you believe is your purpose and the vision you want for your life. The type of person you want to be and how you want others to see you, not how you think they should see you. If people don’t love you when you are poor they aren’t going to love you anymore when you are rich, they will just pretend they do.
Keep it Simple:
All in all, life is pretty simple and being happy can be as simple as having a roof over your head, a warm bed to sleep in, food to eat, and genuine people to love and who love you.
Don’t forget to stop and smell the roses!