Why do New Year’s resolutions (rarely) stick, and how do you make them last?
As I am writing this, it’s only 5 short days before we welcome the year 2018, and by the time this publishes on The Wellness Universe, we will be finishing up the first full week of January. Are you ready to stick to your resolutions? In the past, have you found yourself making New Year’s resolutions and after a few weeks (or if you’re more determined, after a couple of months), you find yourself drifting back to old habits?
You are not alone.
While many people have good intentions, without a solid plan, discipline, accountability, and a clear mindset, New Year’s resolutions can become a thing of the past until the next year. Don’t despair. I am sharing a few tips to teach you how to stick to them this time around.
5 Tips to Help You Stick to Your Resolutions:
Create S.M.A.R.T. goals.
I am sure you have heard this before but are you putting them into practice? Goals need to be specific, measurable, attainable, realistic, and timely. Here is an example. Let’s say you want to experience less anxiety and more peace in your life. You need to find a way to be specific as to what causes your anxiety (uncertainty at your job, finances, a relationship) and use a scale 1-10 to determine where you are and where you want to be. You also need to give yourself time to learn tools to manage anxiety and track your progress realistically. I ask my clients to record their mood daily for at least 30 days and notice thoughts that trigger anxiety or depression.
Keep yourself accountable.
If you don’t have the resources to hire a coach or a therapist, ask a friend or colleague to be your buddy. Whenever you need to report your progress, or lack of it, to somebody you will take your goal more seriously. This person can also help you see blind spots and encourage you when you have an off day.
Do it daily!
If you want to feel better, less anxious and more at peace, you need to create healthy daily habits such as meditation, relaxation, exercise, getting enough sleep, and eating nutritious food (fresh vegetables, seeds, nuts, organic and grass-fed meat/poultry). Ideally, you want to dedicate at least 15 minutes in the morning and in the evening to practice positive self-thinking and self-love.
Work on your limiting beliefs.
Think about why you haven’t been successful before. Many times, my clients know what the issue is, yet they don’t know how to stop or change. If you want to change your beliefs, you need to first know what they are. Often, I hear this, “I am not good enough,” or “I am a failure.” A great tool is to question your beliefs and ask yourself if they are still serving you. If not, it’s time to create new ones as many were formed before age 7 when we were young children and didn’t know any better.
Believe in yourself and never give up, even when you have an off day.
Create visual representations that you can see daily, such as a vision board. A vision board has been my friend and over the years I had several. It helped me find my soulmate and create a vision for my life and it’s getting closer to my dream every day. Persistence and determination go a long way.
Wishing you a happy, healthy, peaceful and prosperous 2018. Remember that you and only YOU are the creator of your life, so stick to it!