When I was a child and lived in the cold country of Slovenia, summer has always been my favorite season. I couldn’t wait for school to be over not only because of the temperatures and being able to spend more time outdoors, but also because I had more time for things that I really love, and have more freedom. My parents, and especially my mom, were very strict and I was only really able to go out on dates or dancing during summer after my 16th birthday.
One of the reasons why I moved to Florida is that I love the beach (back home I was only able to experience it during summer vacation for about 2 weeks). However, a funny thing happened in the last 3 years or so; I really started missing the mountains. I had a summer vacation in Asheville, North Carolina, and fell in love with the city and the Blue Ridge Parkway. Summer heat in Florida has really done a number on me so now I can’t wait to move to Asheville!
Whether you live up North, or South, summer is a time for more fun and vacation, however, there can also be challenges associated with it.
Most of all, if you have a family, both partners are focused on work and raising kids, so sometimes the sudden intimacy and the need to communicate can bring some challenges. If you are a parent, you might also have challenges with trying to manage the additional time you need to spend with your children and make arrangement for summer camp. Those parents who don’t have the luxury to send kids to a summer camp are also dealing with bored, and often cranky kids.
Hopefully, some of these tips will work for you:
Ease and lower your expectations during summer. Summer heat naturally makes us want to slow down. Also, drink plenty of water!
Plan activities in advance with your kids including the ones that are easy on your wallet. Check out listing for local churches or YMCA or maybe even get together with other moms, and brainstorm.
Schedule more demanding tasks in the morning and expect that you might be more drained than usual.
If you cannot afford to go on a vacation, plan a “staycation.” I live in Florida and many hotels are offering off-season rates as the main season for us is the Winter due to mild temperatures. Be creative and ask for help from your family members.
Reconnect with your partner. Spend an evening with a glass of wine and share your goals and dreams. I find in my clinical practice that no matter what the issue is as to why they came to counseling, the issue can be traced back to a lack of communication and lack of taking the time to understand your partner and his or her frustrations.
Most of all, give yourself a credit and take time for YOU. Schedule a massage, change your hair color, and meet with your friends for early dinner… whatever makes your heart sing. Self-care is key so that when Fall comes around, you will be refreshed and ready to face new challenges.