Can you trust yourself?
How many times have you promised yourself you were going to save money, lose weight, or clean out the junk drawer in the kitchen? You have most likely made a great many promises to yourself and broken most of them.
You do this every day. It can be as simple as saying, “I’m going to get started on my work in half an hour,” yet the half hour comes and goes and you are still checking out what’s happening in Facebook-land and you make a new deal with yourself.
This has consequences.
You are imprinting for yourself that you don’t have to take yourself seriously. You are subliminally teaching yourself that it is okay to let yourself down. Trusting and believing yourself is important. After all, if you can’t trust yourself, who can you trust? Shared below are some techniques to keep your promises to yourself and add integrity to every part of your life.
Here Are 6 Tips to Help You Keep Your Promises to Yourself:
1. Use Your Past as A Guide.
If you have promised yourself that you were going to lose 30 pounds but came up short, it might be better to set a more reasonable goal. Losing 10 pounds three times is the same as losing 30 pounds all at once. Make realistic and reasonable promises to yourself.
2. Put Your Promises on Paper.
Thoughts are a funny thing. They sort of feel real, but they sort of don’t. Writing them down is more concrete. Keep your written promises where you can see them regularly. Review them a couple of times each day.
3. Ask Yourself if You Mean It and Listen to the Answer.
Deep down, you know if you are serious about your promises. After you make a promise to yourself, ask yourself if you really mean it. Listen to the answer you receive and respect it. If you are not going to honor the promise you made to yourself, make another one.
4. Change Your Beliefs About Promises to Yourself.
Most of us are much better at keeping promises we make to others than we are at keeping promises we make to ourselves.
- Some part of you believes that it is okay to let yourself down.
If you believe that you matter as much as everyone else, this attitude will not be acceptable to you.
5. Accept the Discomfort that Comes from Fulfilling Your Promises.
Why don’t you keep a promise? It is only because doing so is more uncomfortable than not doing it. So, it stands to reason that if you were better at dealing with discomfort, you would keep more of your promises. When you are feeling uncomfortable, be determined to work through it.
- Avoiding discomfort or confronting it is a habit.
Build the habit that will serve you the best. Dealing with discomfort is among the most valuable skills you can build.
6. Put the Shoe on the Other Foot.
What would you think of someone that made promises to you and broke them regularly? Would you date that person or call them your friend for long? You think less of yourself when you break a promise to yourself.
- You can see this by considering how you would think about someone else doing the same to you.
You wouldn’t think much of them. That is what you are doing to your opinion of yourself. Nothing good comes of this. You might not notice it, since it is happening regularly.
Keeping promises to yourself is generally more important than keeping promises to others, yet we tend to approach life from the opposite perspective. The damage you do to your relationship with yourself affects every part of your life.
Treat yourself like you matter and respect the promises you make to yourself.
The integrity you build with yourself will make you better at keeping all the promises you make. It will expand into everything you do!
Are you ready to make personal and spiritual changes in your life? Consider a one on one private session with Moira or a reading to free yourself from limitations and open yourself up to greater possibilities? I invite you to open the door.