One of the most impressive signs of a truly evolved and self-aware adult is the ability to self-regulate in order to find a sense of balance and harmony. This refers to the ability to make intelligent decisions regarding your thoughts, words, and actions. It is the ability to avoid acting on limiting beliefs or poor impulses.
People who self-regulate well are less likely to have tumultuous lives, overeat, or make regretful short-term decisions.
Those with self-regulation skills also have control over their emotions and thus they set and maintain harmony and balance in life.
Here are seven strategies that will help YOU self-regulate and find your rhythm of balance and harmony:
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Avoid substances that are irritating or disorienting
The more natural your body’s state, the easier it will be to regulate your actions and emotions. Things that alter your physiology or consciousness create unnecessary challenges.
- Some common things to avoid are alcohol, drugs, sugar, and foods that irritate your body in any way.
- Examine your diet. Note how you feel before and after eating something. Eliminate those foods that negatively alter your mood, energy levels, or perceptions.
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Exercise
Exercise is great for self-regulation for a variety of reasons:
- Consistently following an exercise routine creates discipline.
- Exercise reduces stress and makes it easier to regulate yourself.
- Exercise enhances mood and wellbeing. Both are useful for self-regulation.
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Sleep
It is harder to manage yourself effectively if you are overtired or are sleeping too much. Energy and alertness will give you better control over your thoughts and behavior. Most people find the optimal amount of sleep to be between 7 and 9 hours. Experiment and see what works best for your sense of balance and harmony.
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Set goals
Goals provide a framework for making decisions. When you are faced with multiple options, you can ask yourself how each of those choices will affect your ability to accomplish your goals.
- Without goals, it is much more difficult to make a decision. So, it is also harder to regulate yourself.
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Have standards
Having standards has a similar effect as having goals. Your standards are a powerful way of limiting and regulating your behavior. Standards are similar to values. If you know your values, it is easy to develop your standards.
- If you have never thought about your values, now is the perfect time to do so. Make a list of your values and then develop some standards for yourself.
- For example, if good health is a primary value, a standard related to that value might be to limit (or completely avoid) foods that contain added sugar. If you avoid consuming foods with sugar, you are regulating your behavior.
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Monitor
Constantly monitor your mood and thoughts. When you drift from your sense of balance and harmony, you will be able to catch it quickly and get back on track before it gets out of hand.
- The same goes for your behavior. If you are doing things you normally wouldn’t do, such as yelling at someone, ask yourself what is going on.
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Mindfulness
Keeping your mind in the present and on the task before you is one form of self-regulation. It also makes self-regulation easier, as your mind isn’t drifting away and creating challenges for you.
- Throughout the day, notice how often your mind is in the past or future. Also, notice how often your mind is thinking about things other than what you are doing.
If you think about the people you know who regularly struggle with life, you will see that their ability to self-regulate is poor. Now, examine those you know who seem to sail through life with little difficulty. Their self-regulation skills tend to be quite high.
The ability to manage your thoughts, emotions, words, and actions can’t be overstated. Self-regulation is an important part of a successful balanced and harmonious life.
– Moira
Are you ready to make personal and spiritual changes in your life? Consider a one on one private session with Moira or a reading to free yourself from limitations and open yourself up to greater possibilities? You’re invited to open the door.
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Moira Hutchison is a Mindset Cultivator, Energy Healer, and Tarot Card Reader. Her specialties range from helping people with broad goals such as accepting change, life planning, and personal balance, to specific goals like gaining motivation and overcoming issues such as procrastination, excess stress and self-sabotage.