In “Are You Holding onto Pain Part 2,” WU World Changer Hilde Larsen shares how to let go of self-sabotage and start changing negative beliefs and patterns through reprogramming the subconscious. Late joining this series? Catch up on Part 1!
In part one we recognized the different patterns or identities that keep us from moving out of our painful situations. Our subconscious belief system might show up as a false identity, and our lives are sabotaged by our own inner thought-forms. By exploring how we live and act, we might find that we are living a typical pattern of self-sabotage.
We looked at the:
- The not-being-worthy identity
- The fear of the new identity
- The attention identity
- The dis-ease identity
Holding onto your pain means holding on to the situation, even though it is not serving you. Why would you do that? Well, believe it or not, it has benefits.
Here are some hidden benefits you might perceive from being so-called chronically sick:
- You are getting more attention from your partner.
- You are finally getting the rest that you need.
- You can say no to any event that you would rather not attend.
- You do not have to do the job you did not enjoy.
- People are more compassionate towards you.
- You have found community with people that are suffering the same way that you are.
- You love all the help that people are offering you.
- You do not have to “perform.”
For anyone that is ready to take full charge of their life and health, addressing the self-sabotage, this is a great place to start. Take a good look at your inner beliefs and self-talk. If you are sensing that you might have a reason to hold on to your current situation, work on letting that go.
You no longer need to be, do, or say anything to be loved and appreciated. Just by being you, the Universe is celebrating. It is doing the happy dance just because you are being right here. The fact that you are here, right now, breathing and living, is worth a celebration. You deserve great health, we all do. There is no reason what so ever, that would validate any suffering or pain. This is the time to let go of those old patterns, and you will.
Stand in front of the mirror every day, look into your beautiful face and say:
- I deserve health
- Being healthy is what is best for me
- I will never need to be sick again
- I love myself
- I love getting healthy and free
- I can choose what to do with my life
- Being healthy is true freedom
- It is safe to be strong and fit
- I am always loved, no matter what
All self-sabotage is born from the misbelief that we are less-than, not good enough, do not deserve and are not worthy of love and abundance. We carry with us the pattern that reflects back to us what we believe. All depending on which types of situations we have experienced from the early part of our lives; those same patterns are still ruling.
Here is another example:
You never seem to be able to stick with a diet plan, or an exercise regime for that matter. Every time, you fall back on the old habits, and you never seem to be able to stick with it and to follow through. You are used to “failing” and you even tell others this – “I do not have the same willpower that you do. I am never able to stay on such strict diets. I have no idea how you do it”. Every time when it seems like you are going to make it, something happens that gives you a valid reason to stop. It can be a stressful event, an invitation, or the likes. Anything that will make falling off the wagon okay, for you, and for those around you.
The truth is that it will make what you believe about yourself true. What you believe will be true, you always fail, and you knew it would happen. These patterns are hard to fully see, because the one living with the pattern, has a trustworthy story, and the self-sabotage is covered by a true struggle. The magic in realizing we are in fact sabotaging ourselves by holding on to old belief-systems, is the freedom that comes from letting go. When we know, we can change something. We can start to let go of the imprints that false and destructive thoughts create, and open up a whole new pathway of supporting beliefs. We can harvest the fruits of self-love and self-care, and experience that doing what is best for us is easy. It is natural and joyful.
It does not matter if you believe you can, or you believe you cannot, either way you will be right.
We can’t change the past. Yet, as adults we can identify the self-sabotaging thoughts and actions that we’ve internalized. We can consciously choose to act against them. When we fall victim to our critical inner voice, and get sucked in by its deceiving directives, self-sabotaging is a fact. The actions we then take are always self-limiting and not of our highest potential. Every day we need to collect our thoughts, and to do so carefully. We are our own protectors of thought, and will always live what we believe. Cause and effect. We can control our thoughts, and by learning how we really think, how we are subconsciously thinking, we can dive into changing the destructive patterns.
The subconscious mind can be reprogrammed, and every single day, it is. By the way that we live and think, we are telling our inner being what we really believe in. By walking in the direction of change, and at the same time changing our conscious thoughts, we are slowly but steadily changing from within. This is the only way true change will ever happen. I will talk more about this in a later chapter, so get ready to hit the reset button!
You are worthy and you are ready. This is the time to fearlessly let it all go, all of what has been holding you back. It does not matter if it’s the fear of change, the fear of not being able to have pizza or coffee, or if it’s the fear of getting well itself. You better get ready, because you have officially been poked. You have been called, this is your time to roll.
Go get it!
“Never let the fear of change stop you from doing anything. Change is inevitable, and only when we become fearless, life becomes limitless.” – Hilde
Read more in “Know the Truth and get Heathy.”
– Hilde Larsen