How to Clear What is Holding you Back


With all our best intentions and goals, why is it so hard  for us to slow down, simplify our lives, and take better care of ourselves? Why do most of our ‘New Year Resolutions’  fall short or peter out?

Why are we so afraid to let go and embrace a new way of being? Is Change really that scary when deep down we really yearn for it?

As a society our drive to attain and keep ‘busy’ comes at a great cost to our soul. We are malnourished when it comes to compassionate self-acceptance, awareness, and care. We yearn for a simpler, less stressful life, but struggle to find it. We ache for balance but can’t sustain it. There is no time to juggle it all, let alone clear the things and thoughts that have caused us to feel so overwhelmed in the first place.

Time to Stop…

Stop and take a good, hard look at who (or what) is taking up space in your life. If you want change to be effective in your life this year it starts with AWARENESS. You can’t change what you are not aware of. We all have blind spots, things we know deep down are swirling away but we avoid looking at for many reasons. Until we do and are completely honest with ourselves we are doomed to pass another year of carrying around what is weighing us down, holding us back from being who really wish to be and living the life we really want.

Each day, we are provided with a number of situations that give us the opportunity to transform ourselves.  Perhaps someone in your life rubs you the wrong way? Perhaps a certain habit or relationship that you know intellectually is not serving you, but that for some reason you can’t seem to get out of?

Two Steps

There is freedom that comes with awareness, because with it comes the opportunity to make a choice.  Rather than thinking that we are stuck in a repetitive cycle where there is no escape, we begin to see how we actively create our lives. Most people think that with awareness change will simply come about. It is true awareness is the first step and it can bring about change about, but two important  steps are missing if you want sustainable change. First is  ‘Acceptance’. What I mean by that is by recognizing that we are responsible for our reactions, actions and choices. We begin to understand why we are doing what we are doing. We begin to accept and start to heal the root causes of our behaviours.

The second step is ‘Action’ where we use the tools we learn to help us make wiser choices. Instead of fearing change and staying stuck in the same rut this year see that your past and your present no longer have to dictate your future when you choose to be aware. Embrace it with a sense of curiosity. Be free to move beyond your old limits, make new choices, and take new empowering actions. So often we do not take the time to do ‘the work’ required and miss this step. Look at the weight loss industry. A pure example of missing the ‘root cause and working through it’ (Acceptance), instead Awareness (yes I need to be healthier) + Action (diets etc) = Change. I wonder why if it was really working why is it still a Billion dollar industry?

Remember-AWARENESS + ACCEPTANCE (The inner work) + ACTION= Sustainable Change

Hanging onto what you no longer need can really slow you down. What are you committed to letting  go of this year? Comments always welcomed.