What Makes You Anxious?
Are you a student, a businesswoman, a full-time teacher, or a stay at home parent? Do you freeze and forget everything you’ve memorized before you give a presentation, take an exam, or teach a class? Are you afraid to walk across a swinging bridge, drive a car, or make ‘cold calls’?
How do You Manage Anxiety?
First, acknowledge what makes you feel anxious. If taking exams causes you to have brain-drain, then research how other students have coped with this. You are not alone. This is a very common problem, especially amongst students who are short on sleep and have families with ridiculously high standards.
If you are expected to give presentations, be aware that the majority of people are petrified of public speaking. Get coaching from a trainer that specializes in teaching people how to speak in front of audiences and follow a system. There is comfort in learning a set format that you can use over and over again. Expect to be nervous and anxious just before you start the presentation until you’ve done it so often that it no longer bothers you.
Feeling some stress is healthy because it keeps you on your toes!
When I was younger, I was terrified of driving. I had had a recurring dream since I was six years old of dying while driving a car over a bridge. In the dream, the car broke through the side of the bridge and plunged into the water below. Game over!
The best solution at the time was not to drive while on a bridge. Made sense, right? By the time I was sixteen, just sitting in the driver’s seat caused a full-fledged panic attack. I finally took my driver’s license test when I was twenty-three. Why then? I had a job that I could not get to via public transportation.
“Necessity is the mother of invention.” – Plato
How did I overcome my fear? I took driving lessons. I practiced whenever I could. In fact, until I wrote this article, I had forgotten how extreme my anxiety was!
So, acknowledge that you feel anxious and confront what is causing you that anxiety.
Figure out what someone else has done to deal with the same scenario that you are facing. Ask for help. Don’t expect to overcome it on your own.
“Everyone needs a reset button, so you can start your day without anxiety. For some people, it’s running; for some, it’s going to the gym. For me, it’s meditation.” – Matt Bomer
Wishing you great success in confronting that which makes you feel anxious, and in all that you do!