The first step in creating greater confidence is by believing in yourself.
It is your responsibility to take charge of your self-esteem and outlook towards other people and situations. You already got the date. Now, it is time to enjoy it and rock your best self. Although, sometimes that is easier said than done.
Here Are 7 Tips to Help You Achieve Greater Confidence:
Identify 10 major successes
Research has repeatedly shown that the more you acknowledge your past successes, the more confident you become. A simple way to start this process is to take an inventory of your major achievements. On a sheet of paper, write down 50 of your best accomplishments as well as difficult situations you have overcome. Then, pick your top 10 and read them before going on your date.
Keep a daily victory log
Keep track of your successes on a daily basis. This will help ingrain them into your long-term memory; enhancing your self-esteem and self-confidence. Whenever you need a boost of self-confidence, re-read what you have written. Referring to your victory log often keeps you focused on your successes instead of your failures.
Keep your agreements
One of the most commonly overlooked ways to boost self-esteem is to keep your word. Every agreement you make is ultimately to yourself; even those that involve other people. Your brain registers agreements as commitments. If you break your commitments, you learn to not trust yourself. You lose integrity and faith in your ability to produce a result. Do not undermine your sense of personal power. Keeping your commitments is an attractive trait and important in getting over dating jitters.
Visualize yourself as you want to be
Visualization is the technique of seeing an image of yourself in your mind that you are most proud of. Practice visualizing the version of yourself that you want to be. Before your date, visualize walking in with confidence, knowing exactly what to say, laughing and having a blast. Remember, “What the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.” — Napoleon Hill
Affirmations are positive statements that we say to ourselves. We tend to believe whatever we tell ourselves constantly, so say them out loud. To get your brain to accept your positive statements more easily, phrase your affirmations as questions. Say, “Why am I so fun and confident on dates?” instead of, “I am so fun and confident on dates.” Our brains are wired to find answers to questions; especially if it doesn’t already know the answer.
Get out of your comfort zone
Do one thing that scares you every day. The best way to overcome fear is to face it head-on. Doing something that scares you, daily, will increase your confidence with every experience and your self-confidence will skyrocket!
Stop listening to your inner critic
Negative self-talk is so detrimental to self-esteem and confidence. When you find yourself saying negative things, re-phrase them positively. Step back and observe your statements as a friend listening to them. Without a doubt, you are a unique and amazing individual; focus on the fantastic qualities you have rather than the negative ones.
Now, get out there and rock that date!