Holidays can be the most stressful time of the year.
As you begin this season, it’s essential to examine what you want your experience to be. If holidays are usually filled with stress or regret, start searching for ways now to create more appropriate responses or solutions to your stress; Ones that are in your best interest as well as those involved.
Begin by examining your expectations for the holiday experience a little deeper. What causes your stress? When operating from your ego-mind, your reality is formed through the operation of your five physical senses, beliefs held in your subconscious mind, societal conditioning, and humanity’s mass consciousness.
Ask yourself, have you contributed to the situation that causes you to stress? Is there a way to create a new, more peaceful, loving response that will diminish your stress, one that will be in your best interest and the best interest of those involved?
We live in a world where stress revolves nonstop.
Digging deep into your responses to stressful situations is imperative. Observe how you may contribute to the circumstance and determine if you can either rectify it or learn from it. Do you fully understand the other person’s point of view? Are you acting from your ego-mind or your inner voice of wisdom, love, and power? Everyone has some type of fear. Rejection, of some sort, is the most common.
When you reject others’ ideas, beliefs, feelings, or worth, they will naturally feel wounded and become defensive. Once they are in a wounded frame of mind, they move into their defense mode, and their listening shuts off. Think about it, they have the same need to feel worthy, in control, smart, successful, and good enough as you.
Holiday Season and Self Discovery: Finding Serenity and Peace –
Serenity signifies that deep calm, devoid of emotional disturbance, which distinguishes the person who is focused in a “mind held steady in the light. The surface of his life may be [from the worldly angle] in a state of violent flux. All that he cherishes and holds dear in the world may be crashing around him. But in spite of all, he stands firm, poised in soul consciousness and the depths of his life remain undisturbed.” – Master Djwahl Khul
Fear, on the other hand, is the absence of serenity and peace. It is the expectation of something negative, either immediate or in the future. Although fear can be a valuable and appropriate response to imminent danger, kicking in your fight or flight response, it can also be an illogical response to certain stimuli. Fear at a holiday gathering and many other fears can cause extreme stress in your life and can kick in a fear response that can escalate into a full-blown panic attack. Your subconscious mind is silent, unseen, and unheard yet it is the master of your life and destiny. It can keep you in bondage or open wide the doors to freedom.
Exploring the root cause of your stress is essential. It’s not always obvious. Sometimes an explosive situation is just a symbol for the real cause of your stress. What’s making you angry or fearful? What’s really triggering your response?
In a stressful situation, the ultimate is to first find your own inner balance.
By centering or balancing your own emotional energy, you will be in a place of serenity and can more easily restore peace. Remember, no one causes your anger, frustration, or stress. When you dwell in serenity, you will not become combative no matter what the other person says. Balancing your thoughts, feelings, and beliefs allows alternative solutions to surface and you will be rewiring your brain to shift into higher frequencies of consciousness immediately, which in turn establishes new patterns and reactions for future encounters and events.
It’s imperative that you keep your calm, knowing the other person might also be experiencing her or his own fears.
Listen to your inner voice even if it is faint, and allow serenity and peace to unfold this holiday season.