Welcome to the 26 days of Happiness! Today is day 20. Please meet featured author Kim Marie Pauline from the soon to be released book: The Wellness Universe Guide to Complete Self-Care, 25 Tools for Happiness, sharing their inspiring story!
We all want to be happy. But we sometimes think of happiness as something that happens to us, something we have no control over. But that’s not really how happiness works.
Research shows that ten percent depends on a person’s situation. Researchers found that more than half of the happiness we experience depends on things that are under our control.
A big part of how happy we are depends on our mindset, the habits we practice, and how we live each day.
Human Needs Psychology
Human needs psychology provides an answer to the age-old question, “Why do human beings do the things they do?” What drives all our emotions, choices, decisions, actions, quality of life, and ultimately, our destinies?
There are six foundational needs that every person has in common, and all behavior is simply an attempt to meet those needs. This drive to fulfill our six human needs is encoded in our nervous system.
The Six Human Needs
1. Certainty: assurance you can avoid pain and gain pleasure
2. Uncertainty/Variety: the need for the unknown, change, new stimuli
3. Significance: feeling unique, important, special, or needed
4. Connection/Love: a strong feeling of closeness or union with someone or something
5. Growth: an expansion of capacity, capability, or understanding
6. Contribution: a sense of service and focus on helping, giving to, and supporting others
The psychology behind the goal of the six (6) human needs is to help create additional choices that make new patterns allowing us to be fulfilled in a healthy way for the long-term.
Let’s Take a Personal Assessment
We are interested in your top two human needs, even though you may utilize all six at one point or another.
I need to feel secure, safe, and comfortable, and I need to make sure that I will be protected, safe, and comfortable in the future. Avoiding pain is very important to me. I can’t be happy when I’m uncertain about things.
I focus on stability, on habitual routines, and on preparing and saving for the future. I prefer work that is stable and easy instead of work that is challenging and stretches my abilities.
I organize a secure and comfortable environment. I’m focused inwardly on evaluating my level of comfort-discomfort.
I believe that happiness comes from having many different experiences and challenges that exercise my emotional, intellectual, or physical range. My emotional well-being requires uncertainty, suspense, and surprise. I need the excitement that comes from variety.
I focus on seeking excitement and change. My focus is on what is new, exciting, or challenging. While involved in an adventure, I’m planning the next one. I like suspense and exertion.
I focus my energy on several projects. I’m focused outwardly on what to do next. Whether I am a spectator or an active participant, I continuously seek stimulation and entertainment.
I believe that happiness comes from feeling respected and important. I need to be considered unique and special. I need people to look up to me and even fear me to a certain extent.
I focus on what to do to appear superior, different, and essential. I will do almost anything to preserve my uniqueness. I focus on playing the part of someone extraordinary. I need to feel proud of myself. I have high standards, and I live by them. I evaluate myself as compared to others. I need people to hear me, and sometimes “being heard” to me means being obeyed.
I regularly ask myself whether people respect me and admire me. I’m watchful to correct signs of a lack of respect. I need to feel that I make a difference. I’m disciplined, competitive, and a perfectionist.
- I believe that happiness comes from feeling worthy. I need to love and be loved. I need to have meaningful connections with people. If I’m not loved, and I can’t give my love, I’m worthless.
My focus is on the relationships with those I love and on how to satisfy their needs. I have great empathy for the feelings and emotions of others. I expect to get love in return.
Understanding others and meeting their needs. I like to feel that I can help and am proud of that. I need people’s approval and acceptance and have high energy when giving. I crave romantic love.
I need to continually develop new skills, learn new things, and improve at what I already know. I have to build myself physically, emotionally, intellectually, and spiritually. I need to be continually growing.
I focus on learning, studying, developing my skills, and being the best I could be.
Conserve energy and focus away from feelings to learn everything to be understood. I am self-contained. I set careful limits to protect my time and privacy.
Life is incomplete without the sense that one is contributing to others or a cause. I have to go beyond my own needs and give to others. I want to give back and to leave a mark on the world.
My focus is on the world, a cause, how to help others, how to contribute.
I’m energetic, focused outwardly. I can exhaust myself.
What Are Your Top 2 Human Needs?
With real commitment and proper action steps, we will follow in the direction towards achieving happiness.
You may have questions about
- How These Beliefs Serve You
- The Principles You Lost Sight Of
- The Consequences of Losing Sight
- What You Avoid
- What Interferes with Your Goals
- What to Do Now
- How Others Can Support You
I look forward to connecting with you for a FREE strategy call at TalkWithKim.com
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– Kim Marie
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After living much of her life struggling with resentment and anger after the suicide of her father, Kim has found forgiveness and has dedicated her life to helping others live a more Loving, positive, forgiving life. She followed her passion and became a Master Reiki Practitioner & Certified Life Coach.