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“I’ll have to get back to you on that …”
One of the hardest things for many people to do is to wait to hear back from someone. You may feel as if you’re in a “black hole of time” as you sit on the edge waiting for a return call. It seems that when something is vitally important to you, it’s somehow, incredibly LESS important to everyone else! What’s up with THAT?!
As “The Queen of the Business Lunch,” I am often asked about the appropriate, allowable, acceptable time to return someone’s call, email, or even a text message. Are you ready for the answer? It’s 24 hours.
If you have an urgent request, and you red flag it, leave a voice message AND a text AND send an email, and the other person STILL doesn’t get back to you, of course, you can try calling again and again.
But, the bottom line is that YOUR business is not as urgent to the OTHER person as it is to YOU!
So, what can you do – after you have already left messages everywhere (except a post-it note on their car windshield … which I DON’T advise doing; seriously … “stalker alert!”) You have to shift your mindset. You have to realize that it’s time to move on. Whether you need to start over, find someone new to fill in, or simply toss out “PLAN A,” whenever you’re not getting the response (or the support) that you had hoped for…. understand that there is a reason you didn’t hear back.
Many people can’t say, “No!” so they just ignore you. Others are still waiting to hear back from someone else about something else and you’re not at the top of their list. Whatever the reason, it’s important to learn how to move forward… with them or without them. The highest vibrational response is to accept that if they were meant to be a part of your plans, they would have responded.
Say you get a call three days later from this person, apologizing because they “flaked” and forgot to get back to you, or they got swamped, or other excuses, simply try to be as nonchalant as possible.
Of course, you’ll have to suppress the urge to scream, “Do you have any idea what you put me through?! I’ve been waiting and calling and sending emails because I needed to know your answer!”
Instead, realize that – in a different way – they DID let you know. They didn’t respond. And, once you realize this, you’ll see the light and never be bothered by another’s rude or seemingly uncaring behavior again. Want to pick up the pieces, move your plans around and accommodate them at the last minute? Go ahead. At least now it’s YOUR decision. And, if accommodating them would put you out by having to make last minute changes… then don’t. You teach people how to treat you.
You now have 24 hours to respond to this! (just kidding….)