I have spent years of personal work to shake off the hold of public opinion. When I was a child, approval showed up as gold or silver stars; one, two, three and sometimes even 4. We still use the star metric to rate products or services as 1-5 Stars.
Now, paying attention to my motives is a curious balance.
Why I am doing this? Do I do it to get gold star approval or because my heart and soul compel me to do it? Publicly posting is a hard thing for me to do because it bumps into my social inadequacies and my various degrees of self-assuredness (or lack thereof).
I run into a conflict when blogging and posting. After I drag myself through the ringer to articulate and share something I find “important,” I then go through a whole range of personal dramas as I watch how many Likes, Hearts, or Thumbs-up I get. For me, I know it’s just another way of saying I hear you, but the approval factor is there, too.
Social media is a funny thing. It has built friendships and business. We share such a wide range of things, from someone else’s words to personal heart-wrenching stories. We hit Send and there goes our opinion, a gem, a story, bouncing off a satellite; then it lands into someone else’s personal technology universe. There, to then be read, ignored, opined upon, responded to, disliked or liked.
I have to tell you— it’s unnerving! Is it just me, or do you feel this way too?
Recently, I began to ask myself a series of questions to check my motives before posting anything:
- Is this important for me to share?
- What is my motivation?
- Do I want to share this?
- Do I feel I have to share this?
- Do I think I should share this (because it’s good for my public image)?
- Do I care if it gets approval (or if I get my ego stroked) or not?
I guess why I am compelled to share this post is to invite you (and me) to look at our motives and consider why we want the “like” or want to “like” other folks’ posts.
It is YOUR opinion that matters— only your opinion. Know what the middle way is for you. Do you still like yourself if your post doesn’t get Liked? Do the numbers of Likes change how you feel about your new love, your new poem, or your new shoes? Remember to hold your power, hold your center, HOLD YOUR TRUTH as you share your life with the world.
Know your Heart, Love your Life!