IOTD for March 22 by Linda Alcala
I lived most of my life in fear. But it was much later in life that I realized I was being controlled by my fear. It stemmed from my childhood…most of our parents, at least back in the day, put the fear if God in us…so to speak, “If you ever…. blah blah blah!” my parents would say. Then, of course, being molested by my father didn’t help. Trauma is very instrumental.
Fear is a vital response to physical and emotional danger—if we didn’t feel it, we couldn’t protect ourselves from legitimate threats. But often we fear situations that are far from life-or-death and thus hang back for no good reason. Traumas or bad experiences can trigger a fear response within us that is hard to quell. Yet exposing ourselves to our personal demons is the best way to move past them. (Psychology Today).
For me, that was the case. It took years of therapy. So that fear turned into anger and I spent most of my adult life angry, bitter, and resentful. Thus my addiction to whatever substance I could get into me lasted over decades. You see I didn’t find my “sober life” until the age of 57. I’m going into my 61st year of age. My fear lead to anxiety and depression, which I seek outside help for. It was necessary if I wanted to lead a somewhat normal life.
It took some work and some understanding where fear stems from for me to get to a point where it doesn’t control my life. Am I “fearless”? Not by a long shot. Do I need to work on it on a daily basis? Absolutely! But I am able to live my life not paralyzed by fear.
So back to my opening statement…Is FEAR such a bad thing? I think not. I think it makes us aware and vigilant in our daily life. Let your fear be your guide … not your master.
I find an easy method of not letting my fear consume me, is by meditation. Learning to stay in the moment. Keeping a high level of FAITH that everything will work out how it should.
FAITH and FEAR both demand that you believe in something you cannot see. You choose! ~ Bob Proctor
The absence of Faith is Fear. I start each day turning my will over to God and work on not taking it back throughout the day. My FEAR of “not wanting to repeat the past” is a stimulant in doing just that.
Today I use Fear as my guide … not my master. You can too! It takes a bit of work, but it is possible and so worth it. Just like RECOVERY!!