If you are striving to lose weight and keep it off, you’ll need to do something different than what you’ve ever done before …
I would say the majority of the female population gauges their relationship with their bodies based on their weight. Wouldn’t you agree? If your body is at what you consider an “acceptable” or “goal” weight, there is generally less self-loathing. Sadly, most women don’t find their weight to be acceptable and they rarely stay at their “goal” weight for more than a few weeks before the waist begins to expand again. It’s safe to say that there are a lot of women out there who are very unhappy with their bodies. Are you one of those women who’s often saying, “I’d be so much happier if I could just lose these last 10 or 15 pounds!”
When women lose weight, their relationship to their bodies usually changes dramatically. Most women often begin to feel proud of their bodies and actually start to like their bodies again or maybe even for the first time. They excitedly announce that they can now fit into smaller sizes, often wear clothes that are more stylish, and no longer feel the need to hide themselves in over-sized clothing to hide their rolls, bumps or love handles. And because they are now conforming to society’s view of an acceptable body, they don’t have the shame that is generally associated with being overweight. A very important distinction to make in this scenario is that their new found body acceptance is conditional. Here is an example of this love/hate relationship:
Overweight or Fat= body hate/loathing/shame/disgust
“Goal”/Acceptable weight= body love/like/tolerance
Having conditions for loving something leads to disappointment and despair. True love should be unconditional. As long as you have conditional acceptance of your body based on your weight, you will never have a healthy relationship with food or your body.
To develop a healthy relationship with food, you need to accept your body as it is … even with rolls, bumps and love handles. The reason is because if you are striving to lose weight and keep it off, you’ll need to do something different than what you’ve ever done before … you’ll need to start really tuning in to what your body needs. If you’re always worried about gaining weight, a food’s caloric or fat content, the number of “points” you’ve eaten, you cannot learn to do this. This is one of the reasons why your weight loss efforts have only been short-lived.
When we deprive our bodies of what they need, we will always be unsuccessful in reaching our weight loss goals. Sure, you may reach your goal weight, but I guarantee you that it won’t last long. Why? Because deprivation leads to out of control bingeing and eventual weight gain. Period. So, every diet you try, every “point” you count, every ounce of food you forbid yourself from eating (even though your body is still physically hungry) keeps you on the never ending diet roller coaster with the same outcome.
To finally experience a different, more positive outcome, start out with learning to respect and then love your body at any weight. Doing this creates the space you need so you can listen and learn to tune into your body’s intuitive signals. Only then will you allow yourself to eat the foods that you truly enjoy, exercise for health and not strictly weight loss/maintenance, and learn to take your satisfaction factor into account when eating. Learning to do this will transform your relationship with food and body so that you can eventually discover permanent weight loss without deprivation.
Until you begin to understand this very complex relationship, you will continue to struggle in your relationship with food and body.
Isn’t it time you tried something different?
Original Source to Article, With many thanks to Michelle Vina-Baltsas
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