My Journey with Surgical Menopause Part 2: Serenity through Acceptance. — Late joining this series? Catch up on Part 1!
When I woke up from surgery in sudden, surgical menopause, I had a lot to learn, discover, and heal.
I had to recover from more than the removal of an organ and the tiny incisions the surgeon made in my abdomen. As I moved through this transitional time in my life, my body and mind transformed. My hormones changed and it felt like every aspect of my life was out of balance. I sought to heal old wounds and rediscover passions from childhood. It was a time of personal discovery and creative expression. I questioned who I was and who I wanted to be in the future. I found myself putting all areas of my life, from relationships to career, hobbies, and interests, under a microscope for examination.
One of the first things I had to learn was acceptance. Please enjoy part two in my series, an excerpt from my new book, Come Back Strong.
Serenity through Acceptance —
Before surgery, I made three major decisions. I:
- Agreed to undergo surgery to have an ovary and fallopian tube removed.
- Trusted my doctor and husband to make the decisions that were in my best interest while I was unconscious.
- Promised to accept whatever outcome I woke up to.
Serenity is the state of being calm, peaceful, and untroubled. With serenity comes freedom.
There are things that I cannot change: I no longer have a uterus or ovaries. We can’t stuff them back in or do a transplant. I accept that. The uterus I wasn’t using. The ovaries well, that’s another story, as they are headquarters for producing most hormones that keep a woman in balance.
There are things that I can change: my attitude, my feelings, my thoughts, my words, my habits, and my perspective. It takes courage and hard work, but I can change these things.
Learning to see and knowing the difference between what we cannot change and what we can is where the brilliance of the advice comes in. It is freedom. It is, indeed, serenity.
Every single one of us has adversity and challenges in life.
So, the question for each of us becomes not whether we will have struggles, but how we are going to respond to them. As humans, one of our greatest skills is the ability to adapt and transform.
Stay tuned for my next article on “Choosing the Right Perspective” next week!
– Lori Ann
If you would like to read more about my story and how I found balanced-wellness after surgical menopause, I invite you to check out my book, Come Back Strong.