Attract Lasting Love: 3-Part Visualization — How to Become the Kind of Woman that Men Cherish
As any savvy woman knows, men are visual creatures.
A pretty package, artfully wrapped in shimmering foils and rich velvet ribbons. What man wouldn’t be attracted to such a beautiful and luxurious-looking prize?
Of course, men are attracted to a lovely exterior. Why, then, do many smart, attractive women find themselves alone and feeling forever single? Your appearance is certainly important. Your behavior is equally important.
But, there is a third attraction element that determines whether a man sees you as a temporary distraction or an eternal enchantress: your mindset.
As the year unfolds, I invite you to consider a different way of interacting with the men in your life. We’ll ignore everything popular culture says we’re supposed to do to capture male interest: flirt, tease, and be sexy. Instead, you will captivate through stillness and serenity.
If you’re a bit Zen, you will see that by not consciously trying to flirt and be sexy, you’ll achieve a more womanly and sexually magnetic charm.
Before your next date, make some time to relax and indulge in this brief meditation. Get comfortable, close your eyes, and follow this 3-part visualization sequence:
Visualize yourself as a gorgeous flower, silently unfolding and opening to your surroundings.
This is a sensual and feminine mindset, representing an open state. It is normal to feel vulnerable or anxious during this visualization. Just keep practicing until you can relax into it. Eventually, your body will associate a warm, receptive feeling with this image, and you can slip into it in any social situation. Think: centered, serene, and welcoming.
Visualize yourself as a tiny green flower bud, petals hidden, scrunched tight.
You may feel your own body tighten up with this image. It represents a closed state, along with emotions like fear and distrust. For many of us, this is the default position when meeting new people. We don’t want to get hurt so we assume a defensive posture. Unfortunately, this mindset can make a woman appear sour and lonely and turns off the emotionally healthy men she hopes to attract. Learn to recognize this closed state so that you can quickly release it and recover the soft openness of #1.
Visualize yourself as a perfect blood-red rose, surrounded by sharp, stinging thorns.
While this image may seem feminine and powerful at first, don’t let its badass beauty fool you: behind the mask is a mindset that is closed and repellant to men who are interested in a long-term bond. Many smart women mistakenly assume that it is their intelligence or success that gets in the way of romance. More accurately, it is how a woman chooses to use her intellectual leadership that matters. A woman who combines extreme intelligence with a compassionate and open nature will be loved like a goddess by those around her and she’ll enjoy virtually unlimited influence over the men in her life. Always think twice before sharing some clever observation or humorous but mean-spirited remark. Be open to others’ differences. Men love a woman who can appreciate the charm in everyone, her joyful approach to life inspires both loyalty and desire.
Don’t be the type of woman who bonds through critical or sarcastic comments, no matter how clever; high-quality men don’t appreciate that kind of sharpness in a long-term mate. Neither do high-quality friends or co-workers. And don’t become so preoccupied with not getting hurt that you appear hard and unfeminine.
Return to visualization #1. When you are seated across from your date, call up this image to help you feel serene and present. Use this visualization any time you feel anxious about meeting new people or tackling a new experience. Stay open.
You’ll find that you attract better people into your life that are more mature, successful, and giving when you embody a radiant receptiveness toward those around you.