Letting Go So You Can Thrive Part 3: What Is Letting Go and How Can It Help Me? Late joining this series? Catch up on Part 1 or last week’s Part 2!
This is the third in a four-part series, intended to help you learn the different aspects about attachment and letting go so you can nurture and heal yourself and can truly BE all that is possible for you.
Inner peace can be reached only when we practice forgiveness. Forgiveness is letting go of the past and is, therefore, the means for correcting our misperceptions.– Gerald Jampolsky
The following is an excerpt from my book: Letting Go So You Can Thrive
What is “Letting Go?”
Sometimes the hardest thing to do in our spiritual lives is to let go. So many chains can burden us and we drag them around throughout our lives. These might be attached to the heaviest, most cumbersome loads and yet we trudge on, struggling against our true nature most of the time, usually, because we just do not know how to, or we are afraid of, letting go.
Sometimes we come to recognize our burdens and baggage and sometimes we cherish them, hoping that others will feel pity for the great weight we carry, or in some way, will respect us more. And yet, other times we just don’t know any better.
Can you imagine anything dafter than all of this?
We are trying to travel our best journey in our spiritual lives, and yet our path and progress are hampered by ourselves insisting upon dragging around these massive weights. Do you know what these chains and burdens are for you?
Is there someone that irritates you or that you dislike? Perhaps even someone you hate? Is there someone that you have not forgiven? Maybe, someone, you cannot forgive? These are all massive weights that we burden our hearts with, scarring them. They are perversions to the perfect unconditional love we each have at our core.
These impurities drag our love down. In fact, they pull our love into common, conditional expressions. We will not be the first to apologize or the first to extend a hand because it is ‘their fault’ or ‘they started it.’ We will not be the first to forgive, =cbbbbbbbbecause ‘they do not deserve it.’ ‘I will not love him until he loves me, and if he stops loving me then I cannot love him.’
What a heaviness we can carry!
Are there things in your past you wish you had done better? Or other things you’d like you had not done at all? Do you have a cupboard full of ‘if-onlys’ that haunt you? Do you think about your past or your current situation and have regrets? These are large, heavy anchors that we drag around with us. They stop us from gaining any traction in our spiritual evolution; they lessen our ability to grow and develop and, above all, they dim our light.
Do you worry too much? Do you lie in bed worrying? Thinking about whether you have done the right thing, paid your bills, or what you will do tomorrow, and ‘if only’ this or that. All these are chains. Burdens.
Let them go, release them once and for good!
Forgive anyone and everyone who may have wronged you in any way. This is not for their benefit, it is for YOU. The hate or the grudge that you carry around is a noose around your neck, not theirs. It is contributing to your tension, making you feel stressed and irritated, let it go! Open yourself to the highest love of all, the love that is without condition or expectation of love in return.
Forget your ‘if-onlys,’ let them go. Regret helps no one. Just decide to let go of the things you can’t control and take ownership of the things you can. You cannot control all the events of your life, but you can control your state of mind during them. It is your state of mind that determines your happiness, not the events of your life. You are the master of your happiness because you are the master of your state of mind, take control.
Finally, don’t worry, be happy! (Do you feel a bit of reggae coming on?) Worry is a burdensome psychological disease that only you can heal. It is a looping program, a virus for your spiritual life. Let it go. Let it all go. Do all you can to deal with your worries now! No procrastination. Just deal with them and then LET THEM GO!
Our time is now at this moment. Our power is the infinite paradise within us. Our future is held within the realization of our highest and best way of being, anything that detracts from that are burdens.
I hope this series is helping to open you up to new ways of letting go and releasing any and all that no longer serves the best version of YOU!
Check back this time next week as in the last part of this four-part series, we will explore how to best balance letting go with self-soothing.
Are you ready to make personal and spiritual changes in your life? Consider a one on one private session with Moira or a reading to free yourself from limitations and open yourself up to greater possibilities? You’re invited to open the door.