Often, the people who’ve succeeded most easily and quickly at losing weight and keeping it off, are those who display the most positive outlooks on life.
That which is expected tends to occur. Expect to lose weight easily and that will be the most logical outcome you create for yourself. Conversely, if you believe that losing weight is very difficult and painful, you may be creating that reality.
Unfortunately, it is often easier to be negative than positive. After all, one of the first words you learned was “no.” Begin to view yourself and life in a more positive light, and you will reap significant benefits in every aspect of your life.
New positive behaviors can be created in many ways. One of the most effective ways to develop new, healthier habits is to minimize negative thinking.
Changing your verbal behavior will begin the process of changing your belief system. Begin paying attention to the words you use, both aloud and to yourself (more commonly known as thoughts).
Your subconscious mind is your “obedient servant.” It does exactly what you tell it to do. It has no logic, no rationale, no sense of sarcasm and no sense of humor. So, when you say, “It’s so hard to lose weight,” your subconscious says, “Okay.” “I don’t have time to exercise.” “Okay.” “A minute on the lips; a lifetime on the hips.” “Okay.”
Get the picture?
For the next few days, listen, really listen, to yourself.
Hear how judgmental and critical you are of yourself, not only regarding your weight and your body but also how you condemn yourself in many aspects of your life. Would you allow any other person to talk to you as badly as you talk to yourself? Hopefully not. This pattern of self-criticism reinforces beliefs of failure, unworthiness and other detrimental opinions, which leads to further self-criticism. See the vicious cycle that is created and perpetuated? It is time to stop beating yourself up. Acceptance of who and what you are is the first step to inner peace and your successful weight loss.
When you begin to change how you think of yourself and treat yourself better, it will be easier for you to lose weight and keep it off. Begin to view yourself as a positive person who is in control of your life. Your new eating habits will coincide with your new belief system, and your behavior changes will be long-lasting.
As you listen to yourself, try to do it with as little judgment as possible.
Pretend you are outside of yourself, observe your negative self-talk with compassion. It is a little tricky at first because self-criticism is normal for most of us. It might help to try “thought stopping.” Interrupt your self-critical words with thoughts of “Hey, Lighten up, I’m a work in progress” or “That’s okay” or “I’m okay.” That may ultimately evolve to telling yourself “I love you” as a reminder to think of yourself as a beautiful, wonderful person, deserving of your own love.
Many people will tell you that you must love yourself before you can lose weight. I am not one of those people because I’ve helped many, many people lose weight who didn’t love themselves. What I recommend is that you begin to respect yourself. You can show yourself respect by eating healthy foods in quantities best for your body and taking your body out for a walk.
As you begin to lighten up on yourself, pay attention to how you feel. You may find yourself smiling more and feeling lighter and lighter.
What a great way to be!