It comes as no surprise that one thing all successful people appear to have in common is self-confidence.
Whether introvert or extrovert, young or old, speaker, author, or business owner, there needs to be a certain level of personal acceptance that the information you have is valuable and worth sharing.
But it’s not quite as easy as saying everyone with self-confidence will be successful. The link between the two is complicated, for sure. If you find yourself with a lack of confidence, fear not. Confidence can be learned. And if you find yourself with confidence but no success, well, that can be figured out as well.
Small Actionable Steps:
Let’s start with the lack of confidence. The most pain-free way to building your confidence is to take one baby step at a time. Not sure where to start? Pick something small. Finding tiny wins along the way releases a shot of dopamine, the “motivation molecule” our brains need to keep moving forward. When we do something that feels good, our brain pushes us to do it over and over again.
If you have a goal of public speaking, a tiny win might be to volunteer at a similar conference so you can learn how conferences run, get behind the scenes, and even meet the people who might hire you to speak someday.
If you have a goal of being published in the New York Times, start by writing for your local paper or guest blogging on sites like this one. The more experience you have, the easier it will be for your brain to visualize the successful version of you.
No step is too small, as long as you keep moving.
Fail Fast, Recover Faster:
No one likes to fail at anything but taking a step back, determining what you learned from your failure, and using that information to try again is a huge win. Fail, recalculate, and try again. With every failure, you get closer and closer to your end goal. The closer you get to your end goal, the more confident you become that you know exactly what you are doing. The more you learn, the more of an expert you become. Failing is one of the easiest ways to learn.
But Don’t Get Too Confident:
Meanwhile, too much self-confidence can absolutely be a hindrance. While our society used to lean toward never talking about yourself and not promoting what you’re working on, we have recently swung in the opposite direction. There is a difference between being confident in your skills and being seen as a know-it-all. Over-confidence is often seen as narcissistic and difficult to work with.
Know when and whom you can help. Come from a place of service and not self-promotion. Give more than you ask. Before you know it, you’ll be climbing the ladder of success with limitless opportunities in front of you.
In the end, confidence can be learned but unless you have the right mindset, success may not follow. A lack of confidence typically leads to a lack of action. But if you’re motivated and are able to recognize and build on each tiny win, you’ll build your confidence step by step.
While confidence is a big factor in success, it’s definitely not the only factor.
What do you think, are confident people more successful? Are there other factors that keep confident people from being successful? I’d love to hear your opinions in the comments below.