In the past, I have struggled with complications that come with living, working, dating, and functioning in big cities like New York and Los Angeles.
Things can get clouded behind a wall of social climbers, money, power, and fame. Most everyone lives by the “Work hard, play hard” mentality, which can certainly take its toll on your mind, body and spirit. The power of positivity is real and can be achieved. To not get caught up and try to find your true purpose in life, explore these notions shared in this article.
Here Are 5 Ways to Live A Life of Purpose in Big Cities:
Treat Others as You Would Like to Be Treated.
In the New York social scene someone once told me that a person “wasn’t a friend, they were an asset”. I have never thought to divide people into categories; Especially “what can you do for me” categories. I try to always treat others, as I would want to be treated. It doesn’t matter if the person is the grocery store check-out clerk or an heir to a billion-dollar empire. People can feel when you are being real and authentic. Always try to be true to yourself, and the effects will flow to others around you.
Take Time for Yourself.
I am an overachiever. I am a (reformed) perfectionist. I have been called a workaholic more than a few times, and once I get started on something I can’t seem to stop until it is completed. I have checked several things off of my bucket list: traveling to Dubai and India, taking The Art of Living Workshop and taking a wine class. As a bonafide workaholic, I have to schedule in these little breaks for myself. What it does for me? It gives me time to regroup, recharge and refresh. It gives me perspective. It shows me balance.
Do What Makes You Happy.
“The best way to make yourself miserable is to make everyone else happy.”
Does this ring a bell?
“I am selfless. I always think of others first.”
At the end of the day, who is looking out best for you? You.
Do what makes you happy every once in a while. Go see a movie by yourself. Get a massage. Spend a morning sleeping in. Stop and smell the roses. If it brings you joy and pleasure and is not hurting anyone else, chances are doing it will increase your quality of life, and therefore your outlook on certain things.
Karmatically, they say you have to give to receive. You must make room for something new in your life by clearing out the old. Let go of the past. The clothes you don’t wear, let someone else enjoy them.
Give your time to someone that could really appreciate it and make a life-changing impact such as Big Brothers/Big Sisters or The Make-a-Wish Foundation. A quick search online can link with several ways to give back in your community.
Evaluate the Company You Keep.
Have you ever heard the term “emotional vampire”? It describes someone that physically, mentally or emotionally drains you. Emotions and feeling are contagious. If you are constantly hanging around with Debbie Downer or Constant Complainer, you are sure to feel it yourself. Always evaluate the company you keep. If someone is constantly bringing you down or wearing you out, it may be time to reevaluate the relationship.
These are just a few tips I found useful. Which one resonates with you the most?
Do you have any tips to live a life of purpose in big cities? If so, please share in the comments section below!