Three years is a long time to spend, or waste, over someone who doesn’t want to be with you. This is ironic because what I did to finally be able to move on was so simple.
It wasn’t easy, and there won’t be a day where it is, but what’s most important is that I’m free now.
And you can be too…
So, how did I do it?
I blocked him. Yep. After three years I finally did the one thing I failed to do previously.
Not just on Facebook either, but also on Instagram, text messaging, and anywhere else I could find him.
At first, I didn’t know if I was right, in what I was doing.
My finger hovered over the “block” button for a while before I was able to press it. But in pressing that button, what I was really doing was changing my life. And quite literally “blocking” out any negativity from the past. I wanted to change my mind and go back to how things were. I wanted to still be able to look into his life and see how he was doing. But, it was holding me back from a number of important things.
Not Being able to Move On was Holding Me Back From:
- Finding Someone New and Better.
- Thinking About Where My Life was Going, and Not His.
- Learning That There is So Much More to Life than Just him.
After a month or so, I realised that this was the right thing to do. I didn’t want it to be the right thing, but sadly it was. It was somehow hard to admit, but my life just is better without him. And there are many reasons why, but that doesn’t matter anymore.
Instagram can make it especially hard to get over and move on from an ex.
This is because their profile is almost like a crystal ball into their life. People often share personal details on Insta and post photos while their out doing things. It’s not fair to let yourself watch your ex’s life go on without you in it. It’s only self-torture.
Yes, you’ll still think about them. Yes, you’ll still stop and wonder sometimes. Yes, you’ll still regret cutting them out completely. But, the time spent not doing those things, is truly time spent living. Moving on doesn’t mean completely forgetting about your ex and never having a care in the world for them again.
What moving on really means that you are strong enough to let go, and you have the courage to live without them every day.
It’s not supposed to just happen one day. A common misbelief contributed to the quote, “time heals all wounds.” You have to actively seek that healing and believe in it. Time won’t just do all the work for you.
It doesn’t matter if you broke up yesterday or five years ago. If you’re still following, friends with, or connected to your ex, GET RID OF THEM. By doing this, I was taking the leap of faith that I would find someone new for me. If you want my advice, go and block your ex on all social media right now. But, only if you still have feelings for them.
After all, what’s the point in having a heart if you never use it, or wasting it on the wrong person?
Free yourself from the past and start the process of officially being able to move on today.