We are so powerful.
We choose the meaning we give to things. What we focus on, is what expands. What we think and believe, is what we create and receive.
All these things may sound cliché, yet they are undeniable in their truth.
Because of this innate power within each of us, we are both intentionally and unintentionally creating our lives and our world in every single moment.
Mostly, we have been doing so unintentionally.
We only need to look around at the results we have been getting and compare them to the thoughts and feelings we have been experiencing.
As such, we have become victims to our minds and each moment in which we find ourselves along our journey. So many of us believe we are powerless; having been taught to not speak our truth, assert our boundaries and stand in that which is our power.
This is only a state of believing and what is amazing is that in any moment we can choose to believe something that better serves the outcome we desire.
We can choose in any of these moments to give it a meaning of empowerment and strength, or defeat and struggle.
We can choose to rise up and consciously embrace each situation as the gift that is happening for us and from us, or cower in doubt and fear as we declare it happening to us.
This awareness channeled through me the quote; “It is not a choice to become a victim; it is a choice to stay one.”
It is the realization that while no one chooses to be victimized by others, it most certainly is a choice to continue the perpetuation of victimization within our minds. We choose to stay in unhealthy situations, because of the meaning we are giving them. We choose to continue to replay memories that keep us in a space of defeat and disempowerment, because of the meaning we are giving them.
I have endured and risen through such incredibly challenging situations such as, school bullying, parental toxicity, assault, rape, domestic abuse, trauma, prostitution, being pimped out, drug addiction, arrests, bipolar misdiagnosis and over medicating, absolute self-loathing and utter defeat.
Many would say I have every reason for righteous anger, vengeance and other such dark behaviors.
That’s just it; I would be choosing to feel that way about my journey and I did for a very long time. It nearly destroyed my life. Even now, triggers come up that attempt to do so, however, when we embark down a truly self-empowering journey, we develop skills and greater understanding for what is our journey.
When we choose to continue to perpetuate focusing on the negative in any situation, we are the ones creating struggle and doubt in each challenging situation.
Yes, being presented with challenging situations is the experience of the human journey.
After spending nearly 40 years of my life living from the perspective of life having happened to me, it was through re-framing my past from that of defeat and disempowerment, into self-love empowerment. To redefine certain words to diminish the detrimental impact they had been having over my mind and my life. To purposely choose the meaning I was, and am giving, to my incredible human experience.
The first word I was sure to shift was “challenge,” because I could very easily define it as an, “empowering opportunity for growth.” To recognize that life really does happen for me and from me. That all I have endured and overcome truly has been for a reason, so I could grow into the me I am here to be and step into the great, soul-purpose I’ve known, since as long as I can remember; to “save the world.”
However, it was learning that only I could save myself; because no one else could save me in the way that I needed saving and only I could learn to love me the way I need to be loved.
This came to be by, taking back my power from my own sabotaging beliefs about myself and the world around me. To stop saying things are “hard, difficult and a struggle,” and change the meaning from defeat into empowerment with the re-framing of the word, “challenge.”
This is what allowed me to begin to look back over my journey and at the present experiences, to find the positive in all of them. To uncover all the ways I have been made stronger, wiser and better because, and in spite of, all the challenges I have been blessed to experience.
It is what has empowered me to now view my journey as the gift-of-growth it is intended to be.
Remember, a “challenge” is simply an, “opportunity for growth.”
And as we are all here to grow, you can be sure there will always be an abundance of, “challenging” situations to support you in exactly that. It is always your choice to see each as either as empowering or disempowering.