Many people would like to experience a peaceful life, unconditional love, and joy.
It’s easy to practice peacefulness when we are on vacation or in a natural environment. The challenges occur when we’re surrounded by outside circumstances that seem unjust, unloving and unfair. This is when our peaceful journey tends to be shaken and chaos occurs both internally and externally. In order to have a peaceful journey in life, it’s important to embrace and accept what is with compassion, especially during the chaos.
Discovering your “soap opera” behavior patterns that no longer serve you, will provide a greater awareness to assist you in transforming them into a more peaceful path.
I define the soap opera lifestyle as an emotional and mental attachment to unjust, unfair, and unhappy situations creating drama and judgment. When you analyze a part in yourself, a situation or others where there is a lack of peace and you perceive it with judgment there is a tendency to react with hate and anger based on internal beliefs. Your focus is on the “outside world” attempting to change the situation and/or person, where you want to fix or correct the unjust, unfair, unhappy part in yourself, with others and in situations.
This external focus will lead to a victimization and feeling of helplessness, experiencing potential discouragement, frustration, confusion, anger, mistrust, and jealousy of others’ success. This feeling of helplessness will push you into a deprivation focus where you put your attention on what you don’t have and want.
Our mind is like a computer and what we focus on expands and creates that reality.
We can summarize the soap opera behavior as having expectations of results, which then leads to trying to control the outcome, push-time, and overdoing. Expecting certain results leads to conditions of a want, with a time limit of when and how you want it. The results are disappointments, victimizations, and feeling stuck when the conditions are unmet. Many common reasons for the soap opera behavior stem from a “need” for approval, acceptance, and love, or possibly, righteous and controlling beliefs.
The peaceful journey is an internal serendipity with circumstances that seem unloving, unjust, and unfair.
You know there is a positive reason for this circumstance, which leads to growth, wisdom, and opportunities. Therefore, you don’t over analyze and you apply acceptance, enjoyment, appreciation, value, trust, and faith with the unknown. You understand that if it’s important to know the reason in time you will know.
The peaceful journey begins with quieting the mind chatter, opening the heart and applying gratitude, appreciation, and acceptance.
You look ‘inward’ first rather than attempt to change or fix the outside world. You let go of attempting to control situations or people and move into acceptance. From acceptance comes a greater understanding which allows you to then become proactive rather than fear based. I call this Spiritual hearing, where you have an awareness of your connection to source. You choose to focus on love, knowing the more you come from your heart, the more peace, joy, and abundance you will manifest. You accept and have compassion for others, especially when there is chaos, unjust, unfair and unloving situations.
The steps for a peaceful path on your journey is pretty simple, yet can be challenging when obstacles occur.
The application for a peaceful path begins when you hold self-love and acceptance. You value yourself and your work so others will too and you do loving things for yourself to increase self-love. When you see through the eyes of love and acceptance, you hold a ‘light’ of awareness, peace, joy, and abundance. There are acceptance and compassion for other living things from your divine heart.
Some helpful hints for staying on a peaceful journey while on your path of life are as follows:
- Practice meditations to quiet the mind and connect the heart on a deeper level.
- Practice being at peace with the unknown.
- Relax the mind chatter, calm the emotions and surrender to having to know the answers now.
- Come from compassion and acceptance releasing the desire for understanding and remaining free of all attachments especially with fears and insecurity.
Attachments are present when you emotionally personalize, physically have addictive behaviors, and mentally over analyze. The book I wrote, “Living Life as You Always Dreamed,” has more on living the peaceful journey and how to release attachments.
May peace, joy, abundance, and love be with you.