If you haven’t heard it before, I’ll tell you now, loving yourself is the key to healing yourself.
The energy of love transmutes all lower-vibe energies into higher, more positive energies. So, the more love you have for yourself, the clearer and more positive your personal energy is. The more love you give to yourself, the more love you have to give to others.
Technically speaking, we “are all love” by nature, so it’s impossible to “have,” or to be in possession of that which we already are. Simply because we ARE love, no matter if we think we “have it” or not. Read that a few times if you need to and let it sink in. You ARE all the love you seek, after all, and the more of it that you feel towards yourself, the better it is for all. With this understanding that we are all love, it’s clear to see that many of us have become disconnected from that. I’ve been there myself.
These self-love tips come from a girl who once hated herself.
Now I really do not like to use that word but it’s how I felt at the time. I have since grown to love every single bit of myself in a supportive, nurturing way that has helped me gain peace of mind and express love more easily. Here’s what I realized along my journey.
Here are 5 Self-Love Tips and Reminders that You Are Worthy:
You Only Have Yourself:
I think we all go through life looking for love externally because that’s how we received love as children. We were loved by our parents, family, friends, etc., all of which are outside sources. It’s not that we were looking for love externally because we didn’t have it within. No, in fact, we were already it and everyone else loved us for that. We knew, without question, that we were worthy of that love.
As we grew up, some of us were still reliant upon others to love us the way we were loved as children. I know I was there. But when I was honest with myself, I realized I could no longer rely on others to fulfill my needs because I was looking for a love I could really only give myself. With that said, I learned.
You Can Give Yourself All the Love You Ever Wanted:
Only YOU know what’s best for YOU. Only YOU know how you truly wish to be loved. Only YOU know the parts of you that are hurting and only YOU know what to say to yourself to make those parts feel better. And you totally deserve it! This realization brought such relief to my life and kindled a relationship with my inner child that continues to fulfill and nourish me.
Get in touch with those parts of you that feel lacking and that hurt. Sincerely tell yourself all the things you wished someone else would’ve told you to make you feel better. We can be our own worst enemy and our own best friend. These loving words come from your Higher Self, your Source of love within, or the unconditionally loving parent side of you. When your hurting inner-child receives those loving words from a perspective they love, respect and admire, suddenly we are fulfilled from within. Finally, our inner child feels heard, acknowledged, understood, and complete.
Be There for Yourself When Nobody Else Is:
Since all we really have in this world is ourselves, you can be there for yourself in the ways you wish others would be there for you. Look, I know the external company cannot be substituted, but emotional or mental support from within is actually much more fulfilling because YOU know how to be there for yourself the best. (Hint: It’s what or who you’re seeking externally.) What I mean by this is listen to your good ideas, your concerns, the warning signs, encourage yourself to keep going when no one else sees your vision, and take care of yourself on every level so that you can succeed. In whatever way you wish someone else could be there for you, be there for yourself.
Honor Your Desires:
There are many of us out there who have accepted that our desires are to remain unfulfilled. People along our journey have unintentionally conditioned us to “sacrifice” our dreams for other choices. That leaves us feeling unloved and unrecognized within and then reflects outwardly in the same manner. By honoring your desires, you reclaim your inner power and show your inner self the love it has always longed for. You show yourself that, “Yes! I matter! Yes, I AM worthy of experiencing my heart’s greatest desires!” Allowing yourself permission to do this is a life-changing breakthrough in itself.
Honor Your Word and How You Wish to Express Yourself:
Along the same lines as honoring your desires, follow through on your word. This shows your inner self the value of who you ARE and what you have to offer. Many of us are hurting inside because we didn’t have the words to express how we felt at the time of the experience. We are hurting because we were not given the opportunity to express ourselves freely. There is a lot of energy stored within us anxiously awaiting its turn to be expressed! Yes, that’s what the anxiety is all about! Allowing yourself to voice your feelings dislodges all that pent-up emotion and gets your system flowing freely again. And it makes that quieted part of you feel extremely loved and cared for.
I really believe we all have the capacity and capability to love ourselves in a way that is deeply nourishing and fulfilling.
Within our own hearts, lies the incredible power to heal ourselves and every single thing around us, and it is all done through the energy of love. Gift yourself this power of love. It is naturally what you are and quite naturally what you deserve!
Do you have any self-love tips that were not mentioned above? Please share them with us in the comments section below!