How to Write Pain-Points Without Being A Downer

How to Write Pain Points Without Being A Downer by Andy O'Bryan #TheWellnessUniverse #WUVIP #WUWorldChanger #PainPoints

You’ve heard it over and over again from all the copy-writing experts out there.

You have to talk about the “pain” in your copy before you can talk about the “pleasure.”


Two reasons.

  1. Because your prospect needs to know that you understand what they are going through. There is a certain degree of empathy that must be established so you can start connecting with your reader on a deeper level. It’s this empathy that will make you stand out.
  2. This one is a bit simpler; you can’t offer a solution without first establishing a problem.

But there’s a tightrope you have to walk here.

Nobody likes a “Gloomy Gus.” If you start going on and on about all their problems, you’re going to turn off your reader.

After all, they know what they’re going through, so they don’t need you to drone on about it; especially if the challenges are personal, like self-sabotage, low self-esteem, low self-confidence, anxiety, stress, panic-disorder and the list goes on.

If they start reading too much about their internal struggles, they will be in no mood to hear all the good news that follows.

On the other hand, if you don’t address their challenges enough, or you ignore them completely, you can come across as someone who is only interested in making the sale. This is a huge turn-off because it’s all they see online these days. They are bombarded with emails, social media ads, even radio and TV commercials that are only interested in separating them from their money.

So how do you walk that tightrope?

How do you show empathy on your website, sales pages, emails and product funnels, without being a “Pollyanna,” or a “Debbie Downer?

Here are three ways:

  1. This first one may sound like a cliché, but the answer lies within.

Think about yourself and your own challenges. Think back to when you were struggling and remember how you felt.

Then, after you finish writing your first draft, read it through the lens of your own experiences. One of the challenges people have with writing their own copy, is that they tend to go with their first drafts because they just want to be done with it and move on.

Learn the art of ‘Heart-Centered Persuasion’, speak from the heart and attract the clients that will pay for your products and services, who you want to work with!

However, if you go back and read through the pain-points in your first draft within the context of your own past experiences, you’ll start to gain a new perspective on both the quantity and the quality of the words you’re using.

2. The second way is to ask friends, family and colleagues to take a look at how you expressed the pain-points in your writing and let you know their feedback, honestly. Assure them that they won’t hurt your feelings and that you want to know how it looks to them and how it makes them feel.

3. Third, use this rule-of-thumb; share two to four sentences of struggles, challenges, and “pain” descriptions within a single paragraph. This isn’t a hard and fast rule; but if all else fails you can try it this way.

The bottom line is, that you shouldn’t offer a solution (i.e.; your services), without first establishing the problem (i.e.; pain-points), in any of your marketing collateral.

It will take some practice and some trial and error to get this just right for your particular target audience, but once you do, you can start focusing on all the other necessary persuasion elements that will bring in more clients across every platform.

– Andy

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