Sometimes things don’t go as expected. Dreams you have keep seeming to elude you each time you try to reach out for them. The person you thought would always be there for you or simply love you the way you hoped to be loved, just isn’t showing up in that way. The job you thought you wanted just doesn’t hold the joy you thought it would. Every thing and every person around you just doesn’t seem to hold the magic you were hoping for. Do you throw in the towel? Do you start feeling like you’re just not meant to be happy? Do you start questioning whether you’re just not worthy of having the life you desire? No matter how easy it seems it would be to travel down the road where you don’t have to challenge yourself and you get to just lay down and let life run over you, DON’T DO IT! There are reasons why the things you want aren’t showing up the way you want them to.
First, you might be deluding yourself as to what you truly want. The job you want might only be your desire because it does something for you that you think needs to fulfill a certain part of you to be happy. Maybe the job really isn’t about what you can give, but rather what you can get from it. Refocus! Figure out what it is that you really want from what you do. You have to go deep. You have to figure out if the reason you want that “in the spotlight” job is because you really want to feel loved. Perhaps you never felt seen as a child and this is your chance to show up for the world. This is your chance for all the world to never ignore you again because your face is right in theirs. The sad fact about that is, it won’t last. Nothing can make you feel seen except YOU. Only you can really believe you are worthy of being here and no job or person will do that for you. You will find that out quickly. Choose something to do that serves people rather than yourself. In that service, you will find your joy and ultimately start SEEING who you really are.
So the object of your affection just isn’t everything you had hoped for. You worked and waited so hard to be in a relationship and suddenly you find yourself still not happy. Maybe you knew all along that this wasn’t the right person, but you also knew that they had some great qualities and maybe, just maybe it could work. Maybe they fed a certain part of you that felt unsatiated. Temporarily, they would feed you but you will still find yourself yearning for more. You see, when you stop expecting others to be a certain way and you just allow them to show up as they are, then you will really know love and a beautiful relationship will be born and flourish. Anything in between that just isn’t real. It’s not fair, it’s not honest, and it’s not love. That doesn’t mean that it won’t work out. It will just be a really rocky road while the two of you try to make it work. Love flows. Sure, there are some bumps along the way, but not because either of you are placing them there, but because life happens and sometimes, life gets challenging. But it’s not because either of you are not showing up or being someone else. If anything, you are making the ride smoother for one another and not more challenging. If you find yourself unhappier in a relationship than being alone, it’s time to pack up those bags and hit the road. Scary, but not any scarier than staying somewhere where you’re feeling more alone than if you were actually alone.
No matter where you are in your life and what challenges you might be facing, you can get through them. You don’t have to roll over and just let them keep compounding until you finally have a breakdown. Here are some things to think about to help you figure out if where you are is where you want to be.
- Take stock of what is going on in your life and really look at you. Take a look around and figure out if everything and everyone that has shown up in your life is really aiding you along your journey or hindering you.
- Really see if what is showing up in your life is really in alignment with who you think you are and what you truly desire in your heart. Not in your mind and Ego, but your soul. Your soul is always guiding you, always nudging you, always kicking you in the ass when you need it, but you so often just ignore it and then wonder how you end up in the situations you do.
- Challenges often show up when you aren’t on the path you truly seek and so you get knocked off course so you can ultimately navigate your way back to your true path. Allow the challenges you’re facing to help guide you to a breakthrough instead of a breakdown!
I know it’s scary to make big changes, however, when you are ready and you are ready to really live your truth and follow your heart, things show up wherever you need them to! The money, the friends, the place to crash, the ride you need, the job opportunity, etc. But you must take that leap! You must trust that you will be caught and that you will be given wings to fly! No more living in a rut. No more diminishing who you are and putting a dimmer switch on your soul. Your soul wants to shine! Your spirit wants to be set free and it’s time to let go of all the things that are keeping you chained and tethered to comfort that’s not really comfortable. It’s time to love yourself enough to give yourself and the world what you are really here to give. YOU! Your WHOLE, BEING filled with light, love, freedom, and no barriers!
I am a motivational speaker, author, life inspirer, and vlogger. I am the Co-Founder of The Wellness Universe and am presently working on several other life-changing projects with our company, Soul Ventures, that will bring forth positive change on this planet. Besides talking, I am equally passionate about travel. My idea of the perfect life is spent on planes, trains, and automobiles seeing the world. I have pep talks with myself daily. One of my biggest beliefs is that we all have a gift that is uniquely ours and it has been given to us so we can share it. It is rare that you will find me without a smile and it is rare that I’m not trying to make you smile. I presently live in Los Angeles with my boyfriend and our cat, Hershey. I would say I have a pretty simple but extraordinary life!