Life is full of ups and downs, much like a roller coaster.
Some people love the adventure and the feeling of the stomach-dropping with the excitements of each curve and dip. But some people clutch the safety rail tightly, screaming that they want to get off or are about to throw up.
What is the big difference between “roller coaster riders”? It comes down to resistance and resilience. It is whether you allow whatever comes to come versus worrying about what may come. Are you able to relax and be in the moment enough to notice the feelings and reactions in your body? Can you take deep breaths when you notice tension or resistance so you can relax and enjoy the ride? A lot of it boils down to whether you can let go enough of expectations, control, and fear of the unknown and trust in yourself, your strength, and the support of your guides to keep you safe knowing you can handle whatever curves or dips that may come your way.
When we tense up, resist, and attach to the sensations in our body as it responds to the changes and adjustments required, we can get stuck in the “fight or flight” feedback loop and attach to fear. Our sense of safety and security becomes threatened. When we trust our inner strength and tune into the messages of the body, mind, and spirit, we can use tools to calm the nervous system, balance energy in the body, use our higher brain, and access support from angels and guides. The key to all of this is being able to anchor our focus on the present moment.
We often get caught up in the spin, the reaction to emotional triggers, stress, and the barrage of thoughts flooding our mind at any given time. This can bring us out of the present moment, trigger anxiety, and disconnect us from our rational thoughts and the power we possess when we are calm and in the present moment
If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace you are living in the present.– Lao Tzu
You cannot control the future, but you can influence it by your choices in the present moment. You cannot control or change the past, but you can allow it to influence your choices in the present moment.
One of the most powerful tools to help tame the chaos of life is knowing and understanding what you have control of and what you do not have control of. There are some things you can influence as the ripple effect of what you can control. But the only thing you can control is yourself, your choices, your thoughts, and your actions.
The reality is, things do not always go as planned. I love the analogy Dr. Daniel Siegel, author of The Whole Brain Child, gives when he talks about wellbeing as a river. When you are healthy and well, you float in the middle of the river, adjusting to any obstacle or curve along the way. On the banks of the river are rigidity and chaos. When you are inflexible or rigid and things do not go as planned, it sends you to the bank of chaos. Then, to control the chaos, one becomes rigid in need of control, and they bounce from bank to bank instead of floating in the middle.
Change can be scary, particularly when there is uncertainty about the future.
The important thing for all of us to remember is, one, that we are not alone on our journey and, two, that we have all we need inside ourselves to not just survive but to thrive along the way. Some of us have the tools to cultivate resiliency, but sometimes forget where we put them. Some of us have never been taught or have not yet developed the tools to develop more resiliency.
My colleagues, Ingrid Auer, Manuela Rohr, and I have taken our collective tools and personal experiences and put them together in an online workshop.
We guide you to discover your inner strength and resiliency so you can Navigate Through Stormy Times.
In this online workshop, we share profound personal experiences and practical tips and tools to add to your life toolbox. This virtual workshop is full of meditations, body and breath exercises, worksheets to reflect upon, and ways to connect to your angels and guides.
Life is a roller coaster ride full of uncertainty, ups, downs, and curves. The good news is you do not have to ride it alone. There are people, like my colleagues and me, who want to help you tame the chaos of your life so you can take back control of your health and happiness. We can help you find your inner compass to help you navigate through the stormy times on life’s journey. I invite you to register for Navigate Through Stormy Times e-workshop.
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I am the owner of Butterfly Family Wellness and ‘An Integrative Bridge to Health.’ I help bridge the gaps between modern medical healthcare and alternative health, & between self-care and caring for others. I help people tame the chaos of their lives so they can take back control of their health.