Do you know that guilt is not even a real emotion? Real emotions have both a positive and negative aspect. Love, for example, is positive in all the ways we humans know. But it’s negative if you are given love that you don’t want (or from someone you don’t want it from). Can you name […]
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Let’s get one thing straight from the outset: The emotions you experience are not “yours!” Emotions seem like they belong to us because we alone experience them, but they really arise in us. Emotions are messengers. They come to offer a message about how to navigate our life. Which emotions reveal themselves is based on
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That which is “toxic” acts against our health or well-being. How can the beliefs we hold actually work against us in this way? It is our “unexamined beliefs” that are toxic to us. When we don’t recognize our beliefs are creating our reality, nor realize our belief is creating painful or destructive experiences and events,
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We humans live our lives on the basis of what we believe. Beliefs are thoughts or ideas that have built through repetition and have become “truth” for us. It’s important to realize that beliefs are held in the subconscious mind, which believes anything that is repeated often enough as “true” (something advertisers certainly know). Herein
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Plan Your Success for 2019: Release and Let Go of Toxic Relationships. Human beings are designed to “grow out of” manipulation/co-dependency just as we outgrow bed-wetting! Have you ever heard this before? Most people have not. We accept that we must tolerate manipulation, co-dependent behaviors, and “toxic people” because “that’s what human beings do.” Toxic
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Depression is one of the most debilitating states we can find ourselves in. In our society, sadly, we tend to accept “being depressed” as somewhat of a normal state. After working close to a half-century as a Marriage and Family Therapist based in California, I’ve had the opportunity to help people relieve themselves of depression.
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In my mid-thirties, I spent many nights crying myself to sleep, mourning the fact that I had no friends. A man I met in Aikido class suggested I consult an Astrologer, a man named Walden Welch. Having never done such a thing, I approached Mr. Welch with great caution. When we met, I posed my
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My recent year-long breast cancer experience gave me the opportunity to do much learning. I experimented with healing the cancer, focused on my relationship with my body, and encountered three types of “support” people receive when diagnosed with cancer. They are: The “this is what is right for you to do right now, based on
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During the five years my husband, Bob, struggled with prostate cancer, I neglected my own medical life. No tests, no checkups, no blood work. And also, very little moving around, as I sat with him, conducted my psychotherapy practice, managed our small army of home care people, and tended my back-deck garden. Mixed in, I
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It is with great trepidation I write the words “My Disease, Cancer.” Cancer is not “my disease,” and I don’t want to claim it as such! When we claim something as “mine,” it binds that thing to us. Instead, I prefer to call it “the tumor,” “the cancer cells in me,” or “the diagnosis I’ve
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