Whenever I hear someone refer to anger, guilt, depression or fear as “negative emotions,” I wince. That’s like saying that clean mountain water flowing in a brook is “negative.” Water, after all, is energy, just like electricity and wind. They are not inherently “negative.” They just “are.” One reason we feel okay about referring to […]
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After more than five decades as a practicing psychotherapist, I’ve come to a conclusion that may sound deceptively simple: fear doesn’t come from what we know—it comes from what we do not know. Fear hides in the unknown. Again and again, I’ve watched people—my clients, my colleagues, and myself—pull back, hesitate, or completely shut down,
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After more than five decades as a practicing psychotherapist, beginning in 1972, I have sat with fear in nearly every form it can take. I have witnessed it in quiet anxiety and overwhelming panic, in subtle hesitation and life-paralyzing dread. I have watched it shape decisions, shrink possibilities, and quietly govern lives. And I have
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Finding my mission was harsh—I was unceremoniously dumped from my marriage of 8 years, along with my toddler. That’s how I found out I was full of anger! I had no support, so my little child started living in an environment filled with anger and outbursts. I refused to stay there, went questing for answers
Emotional Mastery: A Lifetime of Healing & Conscious Awakening Read More »
“When did my fear begin?” “What kind of help did I get with my fear?” “How did my parents handle their fear?” “What was I told about fear? Everybody has fear, don’t be afraid, just keep going—be brave, get over it!” “Why don’t I know how to get rid of fear? Can I get rid
Let’s Explore Fear: The Perils of Focusing on “The Problem” Read More »
When I offered to write some blogs for the Wellness Universe, my offer was immediately accepted. “We’d love it if you would write something about Fear,” was the response, “something about how to deal with the different types of fear.” By now, I’m a recognized expert on emotions—what they are, why we have them, what
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It was mid-October of 2025. In about one month, I’d turn 83 years old, still involved in my life–happy to be in it, and being relevant to my world. Stepping out of my RV (my home) one day, I felt something in the back of my leg tear. It felt like something in my leg
Learning Never Ceases: Life Is About Learning! Read More »
For years, I’ve felt pain when I read most statements about working with emotions, “mental health,” and dealing with life’s challenges. The cause of my pain is that based on what I’ve learned, lived and practiced with others (as a psychotherapist and marriage and family counselor), what is usually recommended requires too much work, mostly
Resolving, Not Coping: Notes For Developing the Mental Health You Desire! Read More »
This is our last WU Blog on Ending Manipulation. Because it’s not a good idea to keep giving our energy to someone with whom we feel upset or angry, or by whom we’re being manipulated, here’s a wonderful tool to preserve your energy: The Closed-Door Exercise. “The Closed-Door Exercise is a simple yet powerful process
You’re An Energy Being—Protect Your Energy! Read More »
We’ve spent a lot of time describing what I call “Lifestyle Manipulators.” But what are adults like when they end their manipulative behaviors? “Welcome to the world of non-manipulation. It is populated with mature, assertive people. Let’s talk about and experience within yourself and others. Let’s look at what you can expect to experience within
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