Ilene Dillon

Ilene Dillon, MSW, has dedicated her life to helping people resolve personal challenges once and for all, then design life to be what they want it to be. A Transformation Specialist, she has worked 50 years as a psychotherapist and 15 years as a coach. She is a global speaker, Amazon International Best-selling author (The Wellness Universe Guide to Complete Self-Care, Volumes 1 and 2), podcast guest, and plans to give her first TEDx speech (on Anger) later this year. Ilene is also the author of Emotions in Motion: Mastering Life’s Built-in Navigation System and End Manipulation: Stop Being Jerked Around by Toxic, Energy-draining People. With her little dog, Pi, Ilene lives and travels full-time throughout North America in her RV, writing, teaching, and speaking along the way.

Who Can Actually Have Power with Manipulators?

Ending Manipulation: Who Can Actually Have Power with Manipulators?

A few more characteristics of Lifestyle Manipulators are particularly important: they help us understand how to exert enough power to get out of manipulative situations. Keep in mind: The Lifestyle Manipulator is only as powerful as a 3–4-year-old child, or as powerful as we allow! More from Chapter Six “Believe in Action Only” “Because the …

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Recognizing Lifestyle Manipulators Part 2

Ending Manipulation: Recognizing Lifestyle Manipulators – Part 2

In the last installment, we introduced characteristics of what I call “Lifestyle Manipulators,” people who use manipulation as their primary interactional mode. Do you recognize when you’re being manipulated? There are expectable patterns of action and behavior performed by all Lifestyle Manipulators. Knowing them enables us to take quicker action in removing ourselves from manipulative …

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Ending Manipulation with Ilene Dillon

Ending Manipulation: Recognizing Lifestyle Manipulators

We all manipulate at some point in life. We’re designed to outgrow manipulation by adulthood. “Lifestyle Manipulators” are those who continue to use manipulation as their primary pattern of relating to others. Looking at the behaviors of Lifestyle Manipulators makes it clearer to perceive how manipulation works. You don’t have to be a Lifestyle Manipulator …

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Ending Manipulation: How Pain Works in Helping Us Change

In our previous installment, we talked about whether manipulation is “bad.” It is not. Manipulation begins as a super asset, allowing us to get our needs met so we can survive. We’re designed to outgrow this behavior as we mature. When we grow up and still behave manipulatively, that’s when manipulation starts working against us …

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Ending Manipulation blog series with Ilene Dillon

Ending Manipulation – Is Manipulation “Bad?”

In the last post, we talked about the energy aspect of manipulation. It is vital to understand that manipulation is about using the energy of others. We are moving into new ways of being and becoming more aware of ourselves as Energy Beings. We cannot be our authentic selves, live fully empowered, or develop our …

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Ending Manipulation: What Blocks and Supports Us in Ending Manipulation

In our last post, we looked at why children don’t receive the help they need to outgrow manipulation. We’re following the thread that explores the idea that human beings are designed to outgrow manipulation by adulthood. When children don’t receive this help, they can’t outgrow it. This month, we’re looking at the things that block …

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Ending Manipulation: Why Do People Manipulate?

This is the third installment of the series excerpting “Ending Manipulation.” Previously, we introduced you to manipulation and talked about what manipulation is and is not. It is not a mental illness, but a pattern of interaction between people. Now we’ll talk more about how that pattern gets started and its purpose, which will lend …

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