At the innermost core of all loneliness is a deep and powerful yearning for union with one’s lost self. ~Brendan Francis Forming positive attachments to others is regarded as a sign of psychological stability, health, and wellbeing. We all long to belong as a way of being seen and valued. Being in a partnership is …
The quality of your relationship with yourself determines the quality of your relationship with everything else. ~ Robert Holden Whether you think of Valentine’s Day as a crass, commercialized con game promoted by corporations that want to cash in or a bliss-filled day celebrating love and romance, it’s hard to ignore it altogether. Even so, …
“You’ve got to be kidding me! You want me to WHAT?!!!!” We’ve all had some shitty jobs. The low point in my working life came when I was ordered by my boss to go to a bank (where we had a cleaning contract) and clean up a mess that a homeless person had left at …
My husband would have been 67 today. I’ve been bracing myself for this day because it’s a reminder that he’s not here to celebrate with me. Tom and I were both December babies. We had an agreement that December was “Birthday Month.” We celebrated each other the entire month, giving presents, going on vacations, visiting …
The unknown is a scary place. The Indian mystic, Osho, said “Courage is a love affair with the unknown.” Thinking about his words, I think back to my own experiences of facing uncertainty in my life. Most recently, when my husband died suddenly, his absence left me with so many scary questions about my future. …
“You’ve GOT to be kidding me. What do you mean, let love lead? It’s love that got me into this mess, so why would I do that?” My client stared at me in disbelief. He was making an important decision about a parenting plan proposal that had been given to him that week. He felt …
Seven months ago, my husband died unexpectedly. My entire world collapsed in on itself when that happened. I’ve known heartache and grief before, but never to this extent. Earlier this year I wrote about this for the book, Wellness Universe Guide to Self-Care: 25 Tools to Achieve Anything. Now, that I have had some time …
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When I started thinking about what I wanted to contribute to the Wellness Universe Guide to Self-Care: 25 Tools to Achieve Anything, I knew I wanted to write about navigating life’s big transitions. This was an area I had studied, researched, written about, coached clients through. I’d been fascinated by and immersed myself in the …
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Is Grief Affecting Your Health? The short answer is, “Yes.” Grief is a stress reaction and, if you are grieving, you know that it takes a lot out of you, physically, mentally, emotionally, socially, and spiritually. Emotions are drivers of stress. Lower energy emotions like anxiety, anger, frustration, sadness, or hopelessness provide the fuel for …
Grief affects us on the physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, and social levels. What’s difficult for most people are the feelings associated with grief. No one wants to feel sadness, anger, fear, guilt, loneliness, despair, frustration, resentment, bitterness, hopelessness. These feelings stem from the deep sense of abandonment we feel when we experience loss. We tend …
